You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.
Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."
You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.
She's been waiting forty minutes.
Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.
I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.
The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.
Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.
This type of thinking is the same as "I don't want to work out too much or I'll look like the hulk." Interval training will not make you look like a skinny marathon runner. It will take weeks of solid conditioning and dedication to see results. Once you start to shed body fat lower the intensity and amount of your interval training to get the desired results. Follow my carb cycling diet that I laid out above with the interval training and get back to me in a few weeks. Carb cycling will retain your muscle mass, interval training will burn excess calories. Shoot for 40% carbs / 40% Protein / 20% GOOD mono/polyunsaturated fats.PeeGee said:Running is supposed to work your entire body (more or less). Interval training with running is utterly intense. If I'm not mistaken, if you trained to sprint, you will produce a sprinter's body. If you do marathon type running you'll get a marathon runner's body (whatever that is -- I really can't tell)
I am trying to lose body fat as well. I'd like to trim 5-10 lbs without losing muscle mass. Cutting red meat, increasing vegetable intake, and eating healthier while working out isn't producing the results I want. I may take up interval training (running / eliptical) and see if I can keep it up this time.
You can skip the expensive cars, the fancy clothes, and the endless gym selfies. Completely unnecessary.
I used to freeze the second a beautiful woman looked my way. Frustrated. Awkward. Watching other guys walk away with the girl while I stood there tongue-tied.
Then I discovered 22 simple rules that rewired my entire dating life. The anxiety vanished. Conversations flowed effortlessly. Women started chasing me for a change.
These rules trigger a woman's subconscious attraction switches. And you can start using them tonight.
This is true but the body will eventually plateau and pick up on the deficit and correct your metabolism accordingly.JohnnyIrish said:Or cut like 250-500 calories/day under maintenance. This is even easier as no work is involved (well other then some math).![]()