Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.
You've been "getting ready" for two years.
She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.
Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.
Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.
She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.
Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.
So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.
The words come later. The impression comes first.
That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?
She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."
She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.
I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.
Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.
This type of thinking is the same as "I don't want to work out too much or I'll look like the hulk." Interval training will not make you look like a skinny marathon runner. It will take weeks of solid conditioning and dedication to see results. Once you start to shed body fat lower the intensity and amount of your interval training to get the desired results. Follow my carb cycling diet that I laid out above with the interval training and get back to me in a few weeks. Carb cycling will retain your muscle mass, interval training will burn excess calories. Shoot for 40% carbs / 40% Protein / 20% GOOD mono/polyunsaturated fats.PeeGee said:Running is supposed to work your entire body (more or less). Interval training with running is utterly intense. If I'm not mistaken, if you trained to sprint, you will produce a sprinter's body. If you do marathon type running you'll get a marathon runner's body (whatever that is -- I really can't tell)
I am trying to lose body fat as well. I'd like to trim 5-10 lbs without losing muscle mass. Cutting red meat, increasing vegetable intake, and eating healthier while working out isn't producing the results I want. I may take up interval training (running / eliptical) and see if I can keep it up this time.
You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.
Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.
She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.
Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.
This is true but the body will eventually plateau and pick up on the deficit and correct your metabolism accordingly.JohnnyIrish said:Or cut like 250-500 calories/day under maintenance. This is even easier as no work is involved (well other then some math).![]()