Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.
You've been "getting ready" for two years.
She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.
Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.
I didn’t inadvertently suggest it, I directly stated that.
You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.
And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.
Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.
The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.
Still you going like yes there are, there are. But to be honest with you there are not in my memory women on vacation alone, or with boyfriends, or with husbands, who haven't fcked on the side. I dont' fck all, but in my field of view, they all fcked with someone. It's a given. If they come here to my spot on vacation, they fck. It is the nature of the beast like you put it.
This is why I don't drink on dates. People and 'things' go easier when alcohol had lubricated you, lol
Leason learned, i dont drink often but when i do i go all out.
You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.
Go all out at home, its much safer. Depending on how you really feel about your LTR ending, drinking around females might not be good for awhile.
Im havin no regret about leaving my ltr and feel good about it.
Its female logic that seeds said afterthought. Proceed accordingly.