"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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Best way to invite girls to your party?

BrAzILiaNpLaYaE

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I'm having a party this sat the 16th and I was wondering what the best is to invite them without sounding needy and that i'm begging for them to come.

I was thinking maybe something like

"I'm having a party at my house on sat come by if you want"

"I'm partying it up with everyone at my house on sat, I want you to come"

what you guys suggest ?
 

"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"

Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."

You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.

She's been waiting forty minutes.

Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.

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Personally i'd do something that would be considered C&F on this site, but to me it's just natural.

during conversation with a girl just say "Hey, i'm having a box social this (whenever) and you're expected to arrive. If you can't then you have to sign a waiver for all the fun you'll be missing."

Sure it SOUNDS like a line, but jebus i just came up with that 2 seconds ago. More than likely she'll be wondering WTF a box social is and i'll tease her about it and voila.

just make it casual, or even send a facebook invite (easiest way i see, i get at least 2 a week.)
 

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BrAzILiaNpLaYaE said:
I'm having a party this sat the 16th and I was wondering what the best is to invite them without sounding needy and that i'm begging for them to come.

I was thinking maybe something like

"I'm having a party at my house on sat come by if you want"

"I'm partying it up with everyone at my house on sat, I want you to come"

what you guys suggest ?
Well,definately DON'T USE the "I'm having a party on sat come by if you want. Drop the "if you want" part. Make it sound exciting. If you're going to speak to people and ask them in person,then put some excitement in your voice while inviting them to the party.

Say something like,"Hey listen,I'm having a party at my house on Saturday,it starts at around 8 o'clock (or whatever time). I'm having all kinds of food,music,and games goin' on,so if you don't already have something planned,come up there and hang for a while".

Just make sure you sound friendly and upbeat when you speak. Don't say,"I want you to come". Just make it sound exciting,then they'll naturally want to show up themselves. You want them to show up because they want to,not out of pity,or because they don't want to hurt your feelings.
 
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BrAzILiaNpLaYaE

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Thanks for the help. I think i'll use the first Idea. I just hope they actually come or I'll just have to get buzzed and have fun by myself.
 

"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

Read more...

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Yea i like to be straight to the point....basically something like "Pool Party at my house sunday, see you there ;) "
 
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