"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

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Best way to invite girls to your party?

BrAzILiaNpLaYaE

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I'm having a party this sat the 16th and I was wondering what the best is to invite them without sounding needy and that i'm begging for them to come.

I was thinking maybe something like

"I'm having a party at my house on sat come by if you want"

"I'm partying it up with everyone at my house on sat, I want you to come"

what you guys suggest ?
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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Personally i'd do something that would be considered C&F on this site, but to me it's just natural.

during conversation with a girl just say "Hey, i'm having a box social this (whenever) and you're expected to arrive. If you can't then you have to sign a waiver for all the fun you'll be missing."

Sure it SOUNDS like a line, but jebus i just came up with that 2 seconds ago. More than likely she'll be wondering WTF a box social is and i'll tease her about it and voila.

just make it casual, or even send a facebook invite (easiest way i see, i get at least 2 a week.)
 

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BrAzILiaNpLaYaE said:
I'm having a party this sat the 16th and I was wondering what the best is to invite them without sounding needy and that i'm begging for them to come.

I was thinking maybe something like

"I'm having a party at my house on sat come by if you want"

"I'm partying it up with everyone at my house on sat, I want you to come"

what you guys suggest ?
Well,definately DON'T USE the "I'm having a party on sat come by if you want. Drop the "if you want" part. Make it sound exciting. If you're going to speak to people and ask them in person,then put some excitement in your voice while inviting them to the party.

Say something like,"Hey listen,I'm having a party at my house on Saturday,it starts at around 8 o'clock (or whatever time). I'm having all kinds of food,music,and games goin' on,so if you don't already have something planned,come up there and hang for a while".

Just make sure you sound friendly and upbeat when you speak. Don't say,"I want you to come". Just make it sound exciting,then they'll naturally want to show up themselves. You want them to show up because they want to,not out of pity,or because they don't want to hurt your feelings.
 
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BrAzILiaNpLaYaE

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Thanks for the help. I think i'll use the first Idea. I just hope they actually come or I'll just have to get buzzed and have fun by myself.
 

"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."

Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.

Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?

You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.

Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.

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Yea i like to be straight to the point....basically something like "Pool Party at my house sunday, see you there ;) "
 
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