Dhoulmagus
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Most of the girls i have access too are racist af. Ive tried my hardest and failed . Im not 21 so i cant go to another city.
You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.
Most guys accidentally kill attraction before they even speak. They assume they need a bigger bank account, a better physique, or smoother lines. They miss the point.
Female desire operates on a specific set of psychological triggers. Break them, and you're invisible. Follow them, and you become magnetic.
I learned this the hard way. Years of freezing up. Getting friend-zoned. Watching other guys walk away with the girl I wanted. Then I discovered a set of 22 simple rules that rewired my entire approach.
Maximus Rex said:Stop shiftfing blame, it ain't the chicks, it's you. Improve your life and your game and this should improve your life.
You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.
For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.
Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.
The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.
I would absolutely LOVE to live in a backward town in the south. In fact I am planning to move to Texas. The chicks there are so much down to earth, aren't gold diggers, and know how to party. Quite hot too. They would find me exotic cause I don't look like them. Out in Cali, there's a bunch of dudes like me so I get completely ignored. Also out here the women are super fake and shallow…the only type of guy they like out here is a jacked dude with tattoos. If you don't look like a dbag, you don't have a chance unless you're super rich or something.Don_Dom said:No, it's not racist to not be attracted to those of another race anymore than it's "shallow" to not be attracted to fat women or short bald guys. Attraction just is what it is and it's not something anyone has control over.
Racism is an actual decision someone makes to be, in fact, racist. Attraction doesn't work that way. Yes, there can be underlying societal factors that influence what one is attracted to, or not, and some of those can be rooted in racism, but that is all baked in the cake, so to speak. No one wakes up one morning and decides to be or not be attracted to anyone because of their race or otherwise. The closest I've ever heard of any such thing is teenagers doing the opposite because the rebellion factor appeals to them on some level.
It's not "society's" fault that you chose to go to school where you do. Big traditional southern universities are rough for lots of people for lots of reasons, including plenty of white people, so stop playing the race card all the time. I guarantee for every guy like you at a school like yours there are easily 10 white yankees who can't get laid just because they are Michigan or New Jersey and another 100 white southern chicks who can't get the guys they want because they wound up in lower tier sororities or none at all because they didn't go to the right high school or didn't have the right family connections going into rush. Forget about being a few extra pounds. Those campuses are notorious for being elitist about everything for everyone. Southern sorority chicks are the biggest snobs on the planet about everything, with all guys and with each other. So get over yourself and stop blaming racism. It's ridiculous.
You aren't going to shame white women into being attracted to you anymore than fat women are going to shame me into being attracted to them.
Again, it's not anyone's fault for chosing to go to school there but yours. It has always been this way for everyone, and it's not going to suddenly change because you showed up and started crying "racism." You made a poor college choice....You can still do what all the girls who got burned in rush do...Transfer.
In the meantime, keep improving yourself and work on your game. Most of all stop cooling out crying racisim. You are only hurting youself in the long run.
Forget the cash, the cars, and the chiseled jawlines. Female desire operates on a completely different frequency. Primal. Subconscious. Triggers that bypass her logic and hit her on a gut level. Most guys are totally blind to them.
I know because I was one of them. The overthinking. The paralysis. The silent drive home kicking yourself for freezing up. Watching average guys walk away with the girl while you stood there stuck in your own head.
Then I decoded the psychology behind what actually makes women tick. 22 hard rules. Subtle behavioral shifts that rewired my entire reality. The anxiety evaporated. Women started leaning in. Investing. Chasing.
You can find that, but choose carefully. "The south" is 10,000 places and it's all a little different depending on where you are. People and places run the gamut down here depending on where you are, but it can seem like everyone is the same because it tends to be that way in pockets. There are a couple places here I can think of where ripped tattoo guys and rich guys get all the action, too, but it's not everywhere. There are places where its pretty much all hippies, for example. Where the OP is happens to be a mid sized city with a large university, complete with a large traditional Greek system the pretty much runs everything. There are several places like that around the south. And probably not the best choice for a black guy who is into white girls, especially the ones at the upper end if the social strata. There are other places down here that are, though.skinnyguy said:I would absolutely LOVE to live in a backward town in the south. In fact I am planning to move to Texas. The chicks there are so much down to earth, aren't gold diggers, and know how to party. Quite hot too. They would find me exotic cause I don't look like them. Out in Cali, there's a bunch of dudes like me so I get completely ignored. Also out here the women are super fake and shallow…the only type of guy they like out here is a jacked dude with tattoos. If you don't look like a dbag, you don't have a chance unless you're super rich or something.
I know what you're saying, I mean I wouldn't go to Tuscaloosa or anything…but I think Dallas and Orlando are great places to meet women (I haven't had a ton of experience but it's way better than Cali that's for sure). I'm not black or white. So I'm like lost in the shuffle. If you're not white or black, you have very slim chances as a guy. Doesn't work for women that way though - my sister is a player and has had way more relationships than I have. Guess what race all the guys were? White.Don_Dom said:You can find that, but choose carefully. "The south" is 10,000 places and it's all a little different depending on where you are. People and places run the gamut down here depending on where you are, but it can seem like everyone is the same because it tends to be that way in pockets. There are a couple places here I can think of where ripped tattoo guys and rich guys get all the action, too, but it's not everywhere. There are places where its pretty much all hippies, for example. Where the OP is happens to be a mid sized city with a large university, complete with a large traditional Greek system the pretty much runs everything. There are several places like that around the south. And probably not the best choice for a black guy who is into white girls, especially the ones at the upper end if the social strata. There are other places down here that are, though.
The south can be a great choice for people from other areas who are looking for a change. Just not EVERY place depending on what you are looking for. Hell, I'm from here and there are lots of places down here I don't care to visit much less live in.
Google "escorts" in your area.Dhoulmagus said:Nobody has answered my original question
Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."
You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.
She's been waiting forty minutes.
Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.
you're better than paying for heaux. You just got to give approaching a shot.Dhoulmagus said:Nobody has answered my original question
papawapa said:backpage
What's the point of approaching if he just gets rejected? If the man wants an escort let him get one. People here think that if you just keep approaching you'll get laid. Life doesn't work that way.YAboi said:you're better than paying for heaux. You just got to give approaching a shot.
Preach! I've never paid for sex, but I'm a big proponent. $150 bucks for no strings sex with a good looking broad? Yes.skinnyguy said:What's the point of approaching if he just gets rejected? If the man wants an escort let him get one. People here think that if you just keep approaching you'll get laid. Life doesn't work that way.
That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?
She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."
She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.
I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.
Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.