Dhoulmagus
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Most of the girls i have access too are racist af. Ive tried my hardest and failed . Im not 21 so i cant go to another city.
Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.
Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?
You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.
Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.
Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.
She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.
Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.
So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.
The words come later. The impression comes first.
Maximus Rex said:Stop shiftfing blame, it ain't the chicks, it's you. Improve your life and your game and this should improve your life.
Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.
She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.
Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.
So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.
The words come later. The impression comes first.
I would absolutely LOVE to live in a backward town in the south. In fact I am planning to move to Texas. The chicks there are so much down to earth, aren't gold diggers, and know how to party. Quite hot too. They would find me exotic cause I don't look like them. Out in Cali, there's a bunch of dudes like me so I get completely ignored. Also out here the women are super fake and shallow…the only type of guy they like out here is a jacked dude with tattoos. If you don't look like a dbag, you don't have a chance unless you're super rich or something.Don_Dom said:No, it's not racist to not be attracted to those of another race anymore than it's "shallow" to not be attracted to fat women or short bald guys. Attraction just is what it is and it's not something anyone has control over.
Racism is an actual decision someone makes to be, in fact, racist. Attraction doesn't work that way. Yes, there can be underlying societal factors that influence what one is attracted to, or not, and some of those can be rooted in racism, but that is all baked in the cake, so to speak. No one wakes up one morning and decides to be or not be attracted to anyone because of their race or otherwise. The closest I've ever heard of any such thing is teenagers doing the opposite because the rebellion factor appeals to them on some level.
It's not "society's" fault that you chose to go to school where you do. Big traditional southern universities are rough for lots of people for lots of reasons, including plenty of white people, so stop playing the race card all the time. I guarantee for every guy like you at a school like yours there are easily 10 white yankees who can't get laid just because they are Michigan or New Jersey and another 100 white southern chicks who can't get the guys they want because they wound up in lower tier sororities or none at all because they didn't go to the right high school or didn't have the right family connections going into rush. Forget about being a few extra pounds. Those campuses are notorious for being elitist about everything for everyone. Southern sorority chicks are the biggest snobs on the planet about everything, with all guys and with each other. So get over yourself and stop blaming racism. It's ridiculous.
You aren't going to shame white women into being attracted to you anymore than fat women are going to shame me into being attracted to them.
Again, it's not anyone's fault for chosing to go to school there but yours. It has always been this way for everyone, and it's not going to suddenly change because you showed up and started crying "racism." You made a poor college choice....You can still do what all the girls who got burned in rush do...Transfer.
In the meantime, keep improving yourself and work on your game. Most of all stop cooling out crying racisim. You are only hurting youself in the long run.
You made your case like a lawyer. Stable job. Good guy. Ready for something real. All true. All irrelevant.
She weighed your points, nodded along, felt nothing — then fell hard for some tattooed bartender with a motorcycle and a gambling problem.
Logic is where attraction goes to die. The "22 Rules" work a level deeper, on the subconscious switches that decide within minutes whether you register as a MAN or as part of the furniture.
Stop presenting evidence. Start flipping switches.
You can find that, but choose carefully. "The south" is 10,000 places and it's all a little different depending on where you are. People and places run the gamut down here depending on where you are, but it can seem like everyone is the same because it tends to be that way in pockets. There are a couple places here I can think of where ripped tattoo guys and rich guys get all the action, too, but it's not everywhere. There are places where its pretty much all hippies, for example. Where the OP is happens to be a mid sized city with a large university, complete with a large traditional Greek system the pretty much runs everything. There are several places like that around the south. And probably not the best choice for a black guy who is into white girls, especially the ones at the upper end if the social strata. There are other places down here that are, though.skinnyguy said:I would absolutely LOVE to live in a backward town in the south. In fact I am planning to move to Texas. The chicks there are so much down to earth, aren't gold diggers, and know how to party. Quite hot too. They would find me exotic cause I don't look like them. Out in Cali, there's a bunch of dudes like me so I get completely ignored. Also out here the women are super fake and shallow…the only type of guy they like out here is a jacked dude with tattoos. If you don't look like a dbag, you don't have a chance unless you're super rich or something.
I know what you're saying, I mean I wouldn't go to Tuscaloosa or anything…but I think Dallas and Orlando are great places to meet women (I haven't had a ton of experience but it's way better than Cali that's for sure). I'm not black or white. So I'm like lost in the shuffle. If you're not white or black, you have very slim chances as a guy. Doesn't work for women that way though - my sister is a player and has had way more relationships than I have. Guess what race all the guys were? White.Don_Dom said:You can find that, but choose carefully. "The south" is 10,000 places and it's all a little different depending on where you are. People and places run the gamut down here depending on where you are, but it can seem like everyone is the same because it tends to be that way in pockets. There are a couple places here I can think of where ripped tattoo guys and rich guys get all the action, too, but it's not everywhere. There are places where its pretty much all hippies, for example. Where the OP is happens to be a mid sized city with a large university, complete with a large traditional Greek system the pretty much runs everything. There are several places like that around the south. And probably not the best choice for a black guy who is into white girls, especially the ones at the upper end if the social strata. There are other places down here that are, though.
The south can be a great choice for people from other areas who are looking for a change. Just not EVERY place depending on what you are looking for. Hell, I'm from here and there are lots of places down here I don't care to visit much less live in.
Google "escorts" in your area.Dhoulmagus said:Nobody has answered my original question
She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.
You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.
She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.
The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.
you're better than paying for heaux. You just got to give approaching a shot.Dhoulmagus said:Nobody has answered my original question
papawapa said:backpage
What's the point of approaching if he just gets rejected? If the man wants an escort let him get one. People here think that if you just keep approaching you'll get laid. Life doesn't work that way.YAboi said:you're better than paying for heaux. You just got to give approaching a shot.
Preach! I've never paid for sex, but I'm a big proponent. $150 bucks for no strings sex with a good looking broad? Yes.skinnyguy said:What's the point of approaching if he just gets rejected? If the man wants an escort let him get one. People here think that if you just keep approaching you'll get laid. Life doesn't work that way.
You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.
Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.
She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.
Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.