"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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This may seem like a pointless thread, but i'm just looking for some input on which one of these approaches sounds best. I'm gonna ask some girl to come to the movies with me, we went on 1 date about 2 weeks ago that went great but I haven't called her because i've been busy with family ****. Talked online the other day for like 5 min.

Which way of asking is best:

I wanna go to the movies this week and want you to come--- Maybe too AFC and desperate sounding

or

I wanna go to the movies and wondering if you wanna go--- Maybe too weak

Also, should I wait another day considering I chatted with her online just yesterday?
 

"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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This is what I do and it pretty much works all the time. Just start talking about movies that are coming out. And then just say hey lets go see blah blah and blah. Thats it. Never ask her out ever. I always use we should or lets go to....works like a charm.
 
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The Sperminator said:
This is what I do and it pretty much works all the time. Just start talking about movies that are coming out. And then just say hey lets go see blah blah and blah. Thats it. Never ask her out ever. I always use we should or lets go to....works like a charm.
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Well last time we hung out we talked about movies that are coming out. Besides I wanna keep it breif on the phone and get right to the point.
 
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"This new movie that just came out looks awesome. I'm going to go see it this weekend, come with me."

That's a variation of your first choice, so yeah go with something like that. Remember, YOU decide what the two of you are going to do. This means you don't rely on her "approval" i.e. "would you like to go?". Your life kicks so much ass that you want her to enter it and enjoy some parts of it. Good luck. :up:
 
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The Sperminator said:
This is what I do and it pretty much works all the time. Just start talking about movies that are coming out. And then just say hey lets go see blah blah and blah. Thats it. Never ask her out ever. I always use we should or lets go to....works like a charm.
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Well last time we hung out we talked about movies that are coming out. Besides I wanna keep it brief on the phone and get right to the point.
 

"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

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The Bat said:
"This new movie that just came out looks awesome. I'm going to go see it this weekend, come with me."

That's a variation of your first choice, so yeah go with something like that. Remember, YOU decide what the two of you are going to do. This means you don't rely on her "approval" i.e. "would you like to go?". Your life kicks so much ass that you want her to enter it and enjoy some parts of it. Good luck. :up:
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I wanna see her during the week, weekends I like to go out with friends to clubs/bars, so I was gonna ask for tmw or wed. So i'll just tell her I wanna go see it this week, and she should come.
 
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