You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.
Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.
She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.
Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.
So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.
The words come later. The impression comes first.
No, you want her to enter your world... (assuming you have one)The best way is to actually do it instead wasting time looking for the perfect way to do it, because there is none.
I made the mistake of asking a girl to "hangout sometime", failure resulted (she said she was "too busy") because of my weekness. Fast forward one year, I fixed the problem, and now she's chasing me. Odds are she dying for me to ask her out. I'll get around to it, in my own time.@wifehunter That's an insignificant detail in practice. If she wants to she'll say yes anyways and if she doesn't want to she'll say no regardless of how you put it.
If she accepts she'll enter your world, how you ask doesn't determine if she does or doesn't.
You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.
Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.
She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.
Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.
I'm sure you get results with this in mind, right? /verbal ironyThere is no "best way". Every woman is different.
The bottom line is that if a woman believes you have something she wants there is no wrong way to ask her out. If a woman believes you're a loser, then there is no right way to ask her out.
MEN: Stop obsessing over gimmicks and other PUA bullsh!t. All women care about is what you can do for them.
I did consider it... and I kept thinking the classic.. if Brad Pitt asked her to hangout, would she tell him she was "too busy"? with no rain-check ,and no counter offers...@wifehunter Have you considered the possibility that how you asked her wasn't why she said she was busy? Asking someone to hangout sometime is a good enough thing to ask.
You will not always get a yes, regardless of what you say. So it is in fact a huge waste of time to obsess on this tiny detail. It will only bring you frustration and feelings of failure every time a woman doesn't say yes, which is inevitable.
Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.
You've been "getting ready" for two years.
She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.
Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.
Sure, If he was begging on his knees, then she might question his identity.@wifehunter Hahaha, would it matter how Brad Pitt asked a woman to hang out?
It's Brad Pitt, no woman would question his identity. We're also talking about what words to choose when asking, not over-dramatically acting like a mentally unstable idiot.Sure, If he was begging on his knees, then she might question his identity.
Words don't matter... It's perspective. If you're in your center, you won't act like a needy b1tch. It's delivery.... Think James Brown vs Forest Gump.It's Brad Pitt, no woman would question his identity. We're also talking about what words to choose when asking, not over-dramatically acting like a mentally unstable idiot.
I disagree.@wifehunter It's still fairly simple and straight forward to ask a girl out. It's not rocket science that requires fine precision.
That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?
She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."
She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.
I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.
Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.
You sound stupid.I'm sure you get results with this in mind, right? /verbal irony
Why don't you just get down on your knees and beg her to go out with you??? Great frame buddy!!! /yet, even more verbal irony
Details are everything! She wants a man! If you can't provide her with that, then you may want to rethink your life, or be her orbiting drone.
Bro I think you may be confusing your manliness with what a girl wants from you at the time. You can be best frame guy in the world but if she doesn't see you can do anything for her, why would she go out with you? Because she is in love with you? She's is only going out with you at the time because you offer her what another person can't.I made the mistake of asking a girl to "hangout sometime", failure resulted (she said she was "too busy") because of my weekness. Fast forward one year, I fixed the problem, and now she's chasing me. Odds are she dying for me to ask her out. I'll get around to it, in my own time.
Attraction is not a choice... So, I disagree... it has everything to do with frame. It may seem insignificant, but, It's the subtle things they look at. Early on, they're always testing and looking for holes in your armour, even unconsciously!!! Expect it... Any weakness, and you're done!
This is easy. When you ask a girl out you can simple state "I want to take you out sometime". Always use either or questions. What works best for you? The weekend or a weekday? Would you like to go for coffee or beer? You don't want to give them the opportunity to say no. As a matter of fact, it's good to ask questions that you already know have the answer yes. You prime them with the yes questions. Anyway was this a good answer or are you a bitczh hahaBest way to ask out a girl ?
True. If a woman likes you and thinks you can meet her needs there is almost no way you can screw up asking her out accept just not doing it.There is no "best way". Every woman is different.
The bottom line is that if a woman believes you have something she wants there is no wrong way to ask her out. If a woman believes you're a loser, then there is no right way to ask her out.
MEN: Stop obsessing over gimmicks and other PUA bullsh!t. All women care about is what you can do for them.
Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.
She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.
Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.
So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.
The words come later. The impression comes first.