"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"
You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.
Best self defence course?
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"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"
You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.
For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.
Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.
The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.
Interceptor
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That includes multiple opponents,and weapons. And teaches avoidance , de escalation, and the law regarding self defense, and lethal force scenarios.
Have you been researching self defense schools in your area? Have you looked in the phone book?
If you have the time your best bet is too take mma and be efficient in bjj,wrestling,muythai,and boxing.
If you have the time your best bet is too take mma and be efficient in bjj,wrestling,muythai,and boxing.
"She Liked You in March. It's October Now."
Attraction runs on a clock.
She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.
The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."
One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.
Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.
everywomanshero
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The kind of people who feel so powerless in life that they resort to fighting are not worth worrying about. They live in trailors, watch wrestling all day, and take it up the poop shoot in prisons. Unless you plan on living in a trailor park this shouldn't even be coming up. I laugh when I run into these kind of people because it's just so funny how insecure and powerless they really are. While everyone else is driving around in new cars, hot chicks, nice vacations, and such, these jokers are stewing with envy over cheap pizza, some 400lb toothless chic, and beer.
I hear you but sometimes you do need to know how to defend yourself....there are some haters out there. Although I would like to know how this guy brings on getting beat up so much. And I hope he doesn't try sayin because i nail other dudes chicks. because half my crew does that. unless he's from bensonhurst. then he needs to raise the bar and get out of the gutter.everywomanshero said:
He got a call from his brother, saying that someone rated him out to the cops, and they were at his door steps. He said yeah yeah, if I end up in jail you come visit me brother. He closed his cell phone, and tried to kill me.
The 3rd time was even scarier. This chick had a drug dealer boyfriend in prison, and she was telling me all her issues. After a while I just wanted to get rid of her, but she kept coming back. She even added me on msn, stupid me added her. She was like you saw that other guy that hooked up with me he's getting murdered, I was like what? She was like yeah murdered, I was like I don't want to talk to you anymore your crazy.
I deleted, blocked, and stopped all contact.
Be careful with who you associate with.
Its important to be able to defend yourself and those you love, training in stuff like bjj should be part of everyones lifestyle imo. This doesn't mean to go out and be some idiot getting into fights, basically its just training for when all the avoidance stuff doesn't work.everywomanshero said:
"You Can't Argue a Woman Into Liking You"
You made your case like a lawyer. Stable job. Good guy. Ready for something real. All true. All irrelevant.
She weighed your points, nodded along, felt nothing — then fell hard for some tattooed bartender with a motorcycle and a gambling problem.
Logic is where attraction goes to die. The "22 Rules" work a level deeper, on the subconscious switches that decide within minutes whether you register as a MAN or as part of the furniture.
Stop presenting evidence. Start flipping switches.
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Stéphane said:
Hi
To be honest, whatever it is you do choose, you HAVE to stick with it so it becomes second nature. In years of boxing i saw a million kids who came for 6 months and got pretty good pretty fast, and because of that thought theyd be badasses on the street, but forgot when you get in a fight and the adreneline is pumping, you will forget everything the defense class has taught you in the heat of the moment if you do not practice it for a sufficient amount of time to make it second nature. Boxing has become such a second nature to me that on occasions where someone approaches me with a nasty demeanor ive already adopted a distancing stance (with my feet of course i dont put my hands in the air everytime someone says a nasty word
) and make myself ready for what might happen. This is purley second nature from yeeeears of repitition, and thats what you need if you want it to become instinct so in the heat of the moment you dont lose your cool.But, to answer your question, surprisingly i am not going to recommend boxing for your sole defense. If you are dead serious about this i will recommed boxing as a base to be able to develop mental toughness and a solid foundation from which you can throw good punches that do damage whilst learning the technique suitable to minimize you breaking your hand or just not hurting the guy, and it will teach you to move and be able to anticipate what might come. And yes, this means a lot of sparring, because i dont care HOW hard you hit or fast you move, youre going to break down your first few sparring sessions and revert to primal instinct wild haymakers. For your FOUNDATION, i put my life down nothing on this planet is better than developing a solid boxing routine. BUT you must SUPPLEMENT that with another form of combat that involves realistic scenarios like being outnumbered or taken down, which happens in a lot of fights. You have to take a course that teaches you how to avoid being put on the ground and if put on the ground how to escape or defend so someone doesnt stomp or strangle you or break a limb. Again, something you MUST practice. Learn to be evasive, you have to be quick on your feet and be able to move in and away from someone. Im a hypocrite for saying this, because in my younger days i was always the guy who when challenged to fight would never walk away, but do as i say and not as i do, and learn to run. I know that sounds silly, but trust me, discretion is a lot better than glory. IF youre hoplessly outnumbered or the guy pulls out a knife and you have the option to run and you STAY and fight, then you are probably mentally unstable. Learn when to run, dont fight unless youre back into a corner.
I cannot stress enough how important it is to train in these disciplines as frequently as possible. And remember, practice does NOT make perfect, perfect practice makes perfect. You have to have coaches to make sure you dont develop bad habits. Be careful out there buddy, i hope this helps!
"She's Out of Your League"
You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.
Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.
She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.
Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.
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Daddy The Pimp
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That may help you .
But , if you wanna take a course , in my opinion , for street fighting , KICKBOX is great
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My circle are all pretty big on Kook Sool Won. It's basically a giant clusterfück of a bunch of things all rolled into one.
A good friend / sparring partner / trainer of mine has devoted his life to it. Every time he touches me, he breaks something on me and it never heals right.
So it seems to be pretty effective. At least to me.
"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"
She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.
You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.
She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.
The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.