"I just moved here from Florida."
That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?
She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."
She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.
I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.
Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.
Best self defence course?
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"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"
Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.
She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.
Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.
So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.
The words come later. The impression comes first.
Interceptor
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That includes multiple opponents,and weapons. And teaches avoidance , de escalation, and the law regarding self defense, and lethal force scenarios.
Have you been researching self defense schools in your area? Have you looked in the phone book?
If you have the time your best bet is too take mma and be efficient in bjj,wrestling,muythai,and boxing.
If you have the time your best bet is too take mma and be efficient in bjj,wrestling,muythai,and boxing.
"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"
You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.
And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.
Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.
The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.
everywomanshero
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The kind of people who feel so powerless in life that they resort to fighting are not worth worrying about. They live in trailors, watch wrestling all day, and take it up the poop shoot in prisons. Unless you plan on living in a trailor park this shouldn't even be coming up. I laugh when I run into these kind of people because it's just so funny how insecure and powerless they really are. While everyone else is driving around in new cars, hot chicks, nice vacations, and such, these jokers are stewing with envy over cheap pizza, some 400lb toothless chic, and beer.
I hear you but sometimes you do need to know how to defend yourself....there are some haters out there. Although I would like to know how this guy brings on getting beat up so much. And I hope he doesn't try sayin because i nail other dudes chicks. because half my crew does that. unless he's from bensonhurst. then he needs to raise the bar and get out of the gutter.everywomanshero said:
He got a call from his brother, saying that someone rated him out to the cops, and they were at his door steps. He said yeah yeah, if I end up in jail you come visit me brother. He closed his cell phone, and tried to kill me.
The 3rd time was even scarier. This chick had a drug dealer boyfriend in prison, and she was telling me all her issues. After a while I just wanted to get rid of her, but she kept coming back. She even added me on msn, stupid me added her. She was like you saw that other guy that hooked up with me he's getting murdered, I was like what? She was like yeah murdered, I was like I don't want to talk to you anymore your crazy.
I deleted, blocked, and stopped all contact.
Be careful with who you associate with.
Its important to be able to defend yourself and those you love, training in stuff like bjj should be part of everyones lifestyle imo. This doesn't mean to go out and be some idiot getting into fights, basically its just training for when all the avoidance stuff doesn't work.everywomanshero said:
"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."
Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.
Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?
You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.
Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.
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Stéphane said:
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To be honest, whatever it is you do choose, you HAVE to stick with it so it becomes second nature. In years of boxing i saw a million kids who came for 6 months and got pretty good pretty fast, and because of that thought theyd be badasses on the street, but forgot when you get in a fight and the adreneline is pumping, you will forget everything the defense class has taught you in the heat of the moment if you do not practice it for a sufficient amount of time to make it second nature. Boxing has become such a second nature to me that on occasions where someone approaches me with a nasty demeanor ive already adopted a distancing stance (with my feet of course i dont put my hands in the air everytime someone says a nasty word
) and make myself ready for what might happen. This is purley second nature from yeeeears of repitition, and thats what you need if you want it to become instinct so in the heat of the moment you dont lose your cool.But, to answer your question, surprisingly i am not going to recommend boxing for your sole defense. If you are dead serious about this i will recommed boxing as a base to be able to develop mental toughness and a solid foundation from which you can throw good punches that do damage whilst learning the technique suitable to minimize you breaking your hand or just not hurting the guy, and it will teach you to move and be able to anticipate what might come. And yes, this means a lot of sparring, because i dont care HOW hard you hit or fast you move, youre going to break down your first few sparring sessions and revert to primal instinct wild haymakers. For your FOUNDATION, i put my life down nothing on this planet is better than developing a solid boxing routine. BUT you must SUPPLEMENT that with another form of combat that involves realistic scenarios like being outnumbered or taken down, which happens in a lot of fights. You have to take a course that teaches you how to avoid being put on the ground and if put on the ground how to escape or defend so someone doesnt stomp or strangle you or break a limb. Again, something you MUST practice. Learn to be evasive, you have to be quick on your feet and be able to move in and away from someone. Im a hypocrite for saying this, because in my younger days i was always the guy who when challenged to fight would never walk away, but do as i say and not as i do, and learn to run. I know that sounds silly, but trust me, discretion is a lot better than glory. IF youre hoplessly outnumbered or the guy pulls out a knife and you have the option to run and you STAY and fight, then you are probably mentally unstable. Learn when to run, dont fight unless youre back into a corner.
I cannot stress enough how important it is to train in these disciplines as frequently as possible. And remember, practice does NOT make perfect, perfect practice makes perfect. You have to have coaches to make sure you dont develop bad habits. Be careful out there buddy, i hope this helps!
"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"
I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.
The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.
Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.
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Daddy The Pimp
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That may help you .
But , if you wanna take a course , in my opinion , for street fighting , KICKBOX is great
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My circle are all pretty big on Kook Sool Won. It's basically a giant clusterfück of a bunch of things all rolled into one.
A good friend / sparring partner / trainer of mine has devoted his life to it. Every time he touches me, he breaks something on me and it never heals right.
So it seems to be pretty effective. At least to me.
"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"
She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.
Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.
The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.