"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."

Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.

Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?

You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.

Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.

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Best Revenge Ever on the EX that dumped you.

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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The best revenge on an Ex that I had was living well...


And F*cking her best friend for the next few months. :D


The best part is, it wasn't even revenge! But now that I think of it, it sure could have been!
 

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I got one thing to say about revenge. Revenge breeds even more revenge and anger. So if that's what you want to get, then by all means do it. I've thought of many wanys to revenge people who pissed me off. In the end, I simply joked with them in a non-revenge type of way and smoothed things over. Things somehow worked out. No one has feelings of anger towards me as I don't have any towards them.

There are two ways to revenge that never work. One of them is ignorance, which makes you look weak, and the other is giving them a taste of their own medicine which as I argued breeds an infinite loop of anger. I've treid both and I can guarantee they never work. Oh and talking things over doesn't work either because it makes you look weak too.
 

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Living well...and boinking her friend(s.) Best of both worlds.
 

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I do think that the best revenge is living well.
 

"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"

I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.

The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.

Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.

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Nice post!
 

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Strange as it may seem, the best revenge is to move on and not care enough to think in terms of getting revenge.
 

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Right after my latest breakup, I decided to use every free moment where I felt pain to urge me to improve myself.

Finding peace in your heart is the most important thing, but next best is self-improvement.

Izza
 

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Good post, & I agree on the beak up section of the bible, it's the reason I came here

Unfortunatly I let my ex see my get all depressed, I wanted to get with her again but this just decreased my chances, as I wanted sympathy (you she still had feelings for her ex-'jerk' boyfriend whilst going out with me). Only about a week ago I started using the right attitude. I think she's starting to take an interest in me again. I just might have to disappoint her... ;)
 

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Definitely a 5 star tip!

I agree with this to the word. I've always used the pain of rejection/being dumped to motivate me to better myself. Many times I've met up with my ex's and they've tried to worm their way back into my life, but after all the self-improvement and taking care of myself, I'm out of their league. ;)

It's hard to beat the satisfaction of rejecting an ex who dumped you!
 

"I'm Not Looking for Anything Serious Right Now"

When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.

Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.

Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.

The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.

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Good stuff man. Funny you should say this, I recently ran into a 9 piece that did me wrong years ago. She looks horrible and now is fat. It's a good feeling to be the better person when you run in to ex lovers years from now.
 
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I agree that living well is the best revenge. I've had exes that totally degenerated after I broke up with them. They'd whine and scream that I was everything to them, that I ruined their lives and all their hopes and dreams. I told them that depending on someone else for feelings of self worth is dangerous, and to make me regret dumping them. The worst perpetrators never took my advice. One dropped out of school and basically lived in hermitude, blaming me. He'd email me (I'd block and he'd just make new accounts) constantly trying to rub in my face that he was living well, which was obviously BS because he'd alternate with whining about how horrible I was for breaking his heart. Can you see why I dumped him in the first place?

Oh, by the way, I'm a female who was dumping guys. If you think that chicks with issues are disgusting, try guys with issues. I think that you all know a guy to whom you're tempted to throw a box of tampons.

Another thing about living well: Just live well. Do it for yourself. Don't live to throw it in their faces. That's just immature. A simple tactic for living well is Myspace/Facebook photos.
 

"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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Reading this topic a while ago has really helped me a lot recently. Other points that have also helped me are to make the absolute most of my time and to have a focus. I'm now on the right track to being 1000x times better than before so thanks.
 

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Class-E-Sick!~
 

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A little nugget I posted a while back:

Enjoy:

Originally Posted by KarmaSutra

Funny sidebar about this particular ex girlfriend. I was hanging out at her Mom's place and GF went to pickup her sister from work. We're chatting about nothing and her Mom switched the tv over to the vcr (this indicates how long ago this was) and on the tv is a chick sucking c0ck like no tomorrow!

I know what's up and pull her Mom over to me and kiss her playing itty biggy t!tty. Of course she starts fumbling with my buttonfly's and gets them off to give me one of the best oral lessons I've ever recieved. Off the hook good.

She recieves my gift and goes to the ladies room to gargle and rinse out my goo. Short while later GF and cvnt jr get there and she can smell it.

She knows.

Something happened but we ain't talking. Never said a word UNTIL I came home from vacation in CT to find half my sh!t gone.

Then, I told her Dad (that's where she moved back with MY stuff) that if I didn't have all of my things back at my house within two hours, his neighbors and everyone at his church would have glossy 5x7's of his beloved eldest daughter taking acupuncture up her dirtchute with my beef injection and
8x10's of her giving me mouth to meatwhistle rescucitation.

After about an hour and a half they roll in to my yard and all of my stuff has been replaced where it had been taken.

Just goes to show that it certainly does pay to keep something from every relationship in your back pocket. There will ulitmately come a rainy day in EVERY relationship.

Interesting postscrip to the ex GF; After my things were back and they were leaving is when I sprung it on them both that every time they had kissed thier Mom/Wife they had sucked my d!ck by-proxy!

"Have a great life." were the last words I uttered to them both.

Not the last time I had fvcked her Mom though. :)
 

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I agree slickster. Your wasting your own time when your trying to get back at someone. Its always best just to live your life to the fullest. I have to say though that your advice is a lot like the song "Living Well Is The Best Revenge" by R.E.M. Im not making any accusations though because I agree.
 

"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."

Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.

Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?

You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.

Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.

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