LowPlainsDrifter
Senior Don Juan
I believe it's "it is better to light one candle, than to curse the darkness."brownbear. said:
"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"
You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.
For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.
Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.
The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.
Best piece of advice you've recieved
- Thread starter TheVirtualMind
- Start date
"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"
She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.
Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.
The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.
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Mr.Positive
Master Don Juan
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Forget what she says, pay attention to what she does.
Her Interest Level will show through her actions..
Her Interest Level will show through her actions..
I would like to keep this going.
See things for what they are, not what you want them to be. (As in don't use ***** logic)
The person who is the worst judge of their own character, is himself. (basically your opinion of yourself is always colored. Ask many people about yourself)
See things for what they are, not what you want them to be. (As in don't use ***** logic)
The person who is the worst judge of their own character, is himself. (basically your opinion of yourself is always colored. Ask many people about yourself)
"What is the absolutely worst that could happen?" Ask this to yourself, write down your answers and you'll find, for the most part, your own fears are much larger than the actual listed 'bad' results.
"If you're not living, you're dying." (my personal motto)
"Your time is more precious than any other thing in life. It is the only thing you cannot get more of. AND you don't ever know how much you have."
"Hesitation kills."
Pook, Antidump --- gold for me
Most Master DJs on this site (especially the no nosence, call you on your B.S. guys) --- more gold to me
The DJ Bible and the Archives --- still more gold
AND the BPD thread on this site a couple of years ago that had a part in me wrestling my life and self back
Over and Out
"If you're not living, you're dying." (my personal motto)
"Your time is more precious than any other thing in life. It is the only thing you cannot get more of. AND you don't ever know how much you have."
"Hesitation kills."
Pook, Antidump --- gold for me
Most Master DJs on this site (especially the no nosence, call you on your B.S. guys) --- more gold to me
The DJ Bible and the Archives --- still more gold
AND the BPD thread on this site a couple of years ago that had a part in me wrestling my life and self back
Over and Out
"She Liked You in March. It's October Now."
Attraction runs on a clock.
She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.
The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."
One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.
Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.
Poonani Maker
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What goes up will come down. Nothing lasts forever. If you think you'll be riding that "high" forever, you will be in for a big surprise. The exact opposite is true. What goes down, will surely come up. What is lost will be found. How can you not be happy forever with that advice?