"I just moved here from Florida."
That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?
She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."
She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.
I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.
Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.
Best nickname for a girl.
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"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"
You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.
Mandiblard
Senior Don Juan
Did anyone else find the above post amusing? "It's-Me, Maaario"
jeffthechef
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where that quote come from btw..."it's me-marrrrrrrrrrio"
i am sure i've heard that somewhere....some game or movie or something
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cuddlebunny - they like this one
sexy sock girl - this girl wore knee high boots on a date and she had on knee high socks - later she was naked (except for the socks) - it was very cute
Find something in a moment - a fun moment is better - everytime you call them that it brings back that snapshot in time and they'll smile and they'll like it that you call them that
WHERE IS YOUR CHILDHOOD AT?jeffthechef said:lmao didn't even think about that
where that quote come from btw..."it's me-marrrrrrrrrrio"
i am sure i've heard that somewhere....some game or movie or something
"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"
I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.
The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.
Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.
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Of course there's nothing wrong with guys that do this, it's just not my style. As long as you like doing it and are comfortable with it, that's cool.
Don Shinra
Don Juan
"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"
You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.
For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.
Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.
The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.