Hey guys need a little bit of advice again I go to a thai boxing club and have spotted this girl who isnt especially hot but I kinda like her (shes full of energy and can definatly kick ass) the problem is im new the thai boxing so I am not as experianced as some of the other guys and at times i may be doing things wrong. What sorta approach should i use on this girl she is the only half decent girl at the class and I can tell theres one guy there that she likes. I dont get much time to talk unless of course we get paired up to practice.
"She's Out of Your League"
You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.
Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.
She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.
Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.
Best method for this situation?
- Thread starter wildchild
- Start date
"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"
You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.
Thundercat
Don Juan
Talk to her after class and invite her out for a drink. Just something like "Hey, I'm going to such-and-such-a-palce, wanna come?"
Might be best to get a big group together first so you can get to know her better, and then the next class see if she'll go out with you one-on-one.
Hope that helps,
Thundercat
Might be best to get a big group together first so you can get to know her better, and then the next class see if she'll go out with you one-on-one.
Hope that helps,
Thundercat
dearsappho
Senior Don Juan
Dont ask her if she 'wants' to come...use a cul de sac question.
"I'd like to take you out. Where do you prefer? a or b?"
"I'd like to take you out. Where do you prefer? a or b?"
Alpine
Master Don Juan
I've tried sales type rebuttals and closes on women such as the alternate close, I never found them to work very well on chatting up women, yet use them every day in business.
Eye contact, a bit of C&F and just ask. I suppose an assumed close works, but that's because you're signalling dominance and prizability.
Eye contact, a bit of C&F and just ask. I suppose an assumed close works, but that's because you're signalling dominance and prizability.
"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"
You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.
And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.
Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.
The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.
Desdinova
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What are you, a fvcking mind reader? Quit reading minds because it's preventing you from being successful.
You know, I don't even know why I'm answering this. You've gotta do a little work if you want to bed her. You can't just say "Hi, I'm wildchild. If you come with me, I'll fvck you." If you want an easy way to get laid, go get a prostitute. If you don't want that, quit looking for the easy way out and do some work.
Happiness Renewed
Don Juan
Rape her...if u can.
Alpine
Master Don Juan
I'm concerned. I've seen a few rape related posts (and I know some are jesting), I wonder how many rapists we have on SS? Probably more than the average.
Hopefully this site is more of a positive influence than a negative one.
Hopefully this site is more of a positive influence than a negative one.
Nightspark
Senior Don Juan
LOL man she's a high class thai-boxer! and wildchild's a begginer... man who do u think is gonna end up being raped (no pun intended) ??
Oh btw wildchild seriously quit mindreading about if u suspect she likes someone and just go for it .... remember if she liked the guy then she would've done something about it... anyways go ask her out and see where that goes and get her to spar with u from time to time.... it's a fact that sexual tension builds up thru action activities
"I just moved here from Florida."
That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?
She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."
She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.
I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.
Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.
Let her kick the crap out of you (but don't make it look like you're just letting her), then afterwards tell her she's pretty good. Ask her to coffee or something (she'll be tired, and liking the compliment)
Alexi
Alexi
Man it was all going good. We got to spar tonight and to cut a long story short i was to spar with her ( she was doing it for 3 years this was my 2nd time doing it) i used to do karate when i was younger and was british champ when i was like 13 and it all kinda came back to me. I started blocking and countering her hits ( was only light sparring) then i was like " do you beat up alot of guys... or only the good looking ones?" then i told her i done karate thats how i wasnt too bad at thai boxing and she said we cant all be perfect so i looked her up and down n said " thats obvious" she was laughing n we were carrying on then some1 said i think shes the instructors girlfriend...............screeaaaaaaach. im gonna leave her now thank god i done get oneitis anymore game over move on
game over move on