Hey guys need a little bit of advice again I go to a thai boxing club and have spotted this girl who isnt especially hot but I kinda like her (shes full of energy and can definatly kick ass) the problem is im new the thai boxing so I am not as experianced as some of the other guys and at times i may be doing things wrong. What sorta approach should i use on this girl she is the only half decent girl at the class and I can tell theres one guy there that she likes. I dont get much time to talk unless of course we get paired up to practice.
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Best method for this situation?
- Thread starter wildchild
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"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"
Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.
You've been "getting ready" for two years.
She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.
Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.
Thundercat
Don Juan
Talk to her after class and invite her out for a drink. Just something like "Hey, I'm going to such-and-such-a-palce, wanna come?"
Might be best to get a big group together first so you can get to know her better, and then the next class see if she'll go out with you one-on-one.
Hope that helps,
Thundercat
Might be best to get a big group together first so you can get to know her better, and then the next class see if she'll go out with you one-on-one.
Hope that helps,
Thundercat
dearsappho
Senior Don Juan
Dont ask her if she 'wants' to come...use a cul de sac question.
"I'd like to take you out. Where do you prefer? a or b?"
"I'd like to take you out. Where do you prefer? a or b?"
Alpine
Master Don Juan
I've tried sales type rebuttals and closes on women such as the alternate close, I never found them to work very well on chatting up women, yet use them every day in business.
Eye contact, a bit of C&F and just ask. I suppose an assumed close works, but that's because you're signalling dominance and prizability.
Eye contact, a bit of C&F and just ask. I suppose an assumed close works, but that's because you're signalling dominance and prizability.
"I'm Not Looking for Anything Serious Right Now"
When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.
Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.
Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.
The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.
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What are you, a fvcking mind reader? Quit reading minds because it's preventing you from being successful.
You know, I don't even know why I'm answering this. You've gotta do a little work if you want to bed her. You can't just say "Hi, I'm wildchild. If you come with me, I'll fvck you." If you want an easy way to get laid, go get a prostitute. If you don't want that, quit looking for the easy way out and do some work.
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Don Juan
Rape her...if u can.
Alpine
Master Don Juan
I'm concerned. I've seen a few rape related posts (and I know some are jesting), I wonder how many rapists we have on SS? Probably more than the average.
Hopefully this site is more of a positive influence than a negative one.
Hopefully this site is more of a positive influence than a negative one.
Nightspark
Senior Don Juan
LOL man she's a high class thai-boxer! and wildchild's a begginer... man who do u think is gonna end up being raped (no pun intended) ??
Oh btw wildchild seriously quit mindreading about if u suspect she likes someone and just go for it .... remember if she liked the guy then she would've done something about it... anyways go ask her out and see where that goes and get her to spar with u from time to time.... it's a fact that sexual tension builds up thru action activities
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Most guys accidentally kill attraction before they even speak. They assume they need a bigger bank account, a better physique, or smoother lines. They miss the point.
Female desire operates on a specific set of psychological triggers. Break them, and you're invisible. Follow them, and you become magnetic.
I learned this the hard way. Years of freezing up. Getting friend-zoned. Watching other guys walk away with the girl I wanted. Then I discovered a set of 22 simple rules that rewired my entire approach.
Let her kick the crap out of you (but don't make it look like you're just letting her), then afterwards tell her she's pretty good. Ask her to coffee or something (she'll be tired, and liking the compliment)
Alexi
Alexi
Man it was all going good. We got to spar tonight and to cut a long story short i was to spar with her ( she was doing it for 3 years this was my 2nd time doing it) i used to do karate when i was younger and was british champ when i was like 13 and it all kinda came back to me. I started blocking and countering her hits ( was only light sparring) then i was like " do you beat up alot of guys... or only the good looking ones?" then i told her i done karate thats how i wasnt too bad at thai boxing and she said we cant all be perfect so i looked her up and down n said " thats obvious" she was laughing n we were carrying on then some1 said i think shes the instructors girlfriend...............screeaaaaaaach. im gonna leave her now thank god i done get oneitis anymore game over move on
game over move on