She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.
You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.
She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.
The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.
That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?
She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."
She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.
I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.
Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.
Thanks for the help. the more i think about it, the more I realize you're right. The method is hardly important, but it must fit the situation and the girl.Axcell said:Who cares? I mean, I strongly believe "textbook stuff" can help, but I don't believe in following everything word for word - especially routines. Mystery's kiss close is NOT something I would recommend to do. Do you not realize how public the PUA world has become? That line has probably been used 1000's of times before. Each moment should be individual between you and a girl. The last thing you want is to use the same routine that an ex-boyfriend used!
Just casually have a good conversation with her in a place where both you and her are comfortable (that way she opens up to you and is comfortable kissing) For example: If she is a shy girl, she may not be comfortable kissing you in front of a lot of people, so you may want to go to a quiet park where they may not be so many people. That's why it is important to get to know the girl better and adapt based on what you find.. canned material does not account for any of the points mentioned above. Any, I shall continue. Have a casual conversation, make her laugh and wait for a bit of silence... (and ensure you have made enough rapport with her from the beginning) and than kiss her. It's not that difficult so don't make it seem like it is!
It is JUST a kiss, relax. Follow my method, stop using canned stuff. I, myself look at canned material but only to gain knowledge for personal ideas of my own or to alter them a bit... not to actually follow them exactly! You should do the same.
Hope I helped,
Axcell.
Haha, exactly. Glad I could help you out.dj_jazzybrad said:Thanks for the help. the more i think about it, the more I realize you're right. The method is hardly important, but it must fit the situation and the girl.
You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.
For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.
Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.
The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.