"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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Best friend's oneitis is way into me :nervous:

wonderbread

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My best friend, his oneitis(who has a bf that is not him), some random girl(i was not into her at all) and I went out together, he invited me so it wouldn't be weird and stuff and I was cool with it, I'm all for being a good wingman and talking up to girls in favor of a good friend. But the thing is she was giving ME serious IOI's lots of eye contact, kino and such(we went to his house and she sat next to me on the couch and was practically snuggling with me in front of him and I felt like an ass). She asked me my number, and not to be weird or rude i gave it to her. She hasn't texted or called which is good but if she starts I want to know a good way that won't hurt her feelings but show or tell her that I'm not interested because she's like an HB8 and I would have taken advantage if my friend didn't tell me that he was into her. My friend definitely noticed her noticing me and he's been a little weird with me since it happened, but he's the farthest anyone can ever be in the friend zone so I don't even know. She may just be a c*ck tease but I'm a little nervous. DJ thoughts?

I figure she may not even contact me if she has figured out for herself that I'm not interested by me not requesting her number.
 

"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"

Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."

You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.

She's been waiting forty minutes.

Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.

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wonderbread

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thanks bro, doesn't just saying it come off as being a rude ******* though?
 

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Why do you care? Tell her you are not interested, from reading your initial post, it didn't seem like you ever talked to this girl, calling her "some random girl". So what do you care if you somehow hurt her feelings by being honest with her? If I were you, I'd rather help my friend than change some of my values just to maybe do something with some girl I don't know.

Just tell her you aren't interested, and leave it at that.
 

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Clearly OP's into her otherwise you wouldn't care about hurting her feelings (over your bestfriend's wtf?)
 

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I just straight up told her I wasn't interested and she demanded to know why, I just left it at not interested because I couldn't think of anything. The reason I made this thread was to avoid this situation and find some excuse other than "I'm not going to advance with you because my best friend is way more into you than I am." Oh well, moving on.
 

"She Liked You in March. It's October Now."

Attraction runs on a clock.

She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.

The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."

One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.

Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.

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Warrior74

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it's a trap.

the old, im gonna make you jealous by warming up to your homie game. Love triangles are the devils joy.
 
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