"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"

I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.

The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.

Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.

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Best friend's oneitis is way into me :nervous:

wonderbread

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My best friend, his oneitis(who has a bf that is not him), some random girl(i was not into her at all) and I went out together, he invited me so it wouldn't be weird and stuff and I was cool with it, I'm all for being a good wingman and talking up to girls in favor of a good friend. But the thing is she was giving ME serious IOI's lots of eye contact, kino and such(we went to his house and she sat next to me on the couch and was practically snuggling with me in front of him and I felt like an ass). She asked me my number, and not to be weird or rude i gave it to her. She hasn't texted or called which is good but if she starts I want to know a good way that won't hurt her feelings but show or tell her that I'm not interested because she's like an HB8 and I would have taken advantage if my friend didn't tell me that he was into her. My friend definitely noticed her noticing me and he's been a little weird with me since it happened, but he's the farthest anyone can ever be in the friend zone so I don't even know. She may just be a c*ck tease but I'm a little nervous. DJ thoughts?

I figure she may not even contact me if she has figured out for herself that I'm not interested by me not requesting her number.
 

"She's Out of Your League"

You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.

Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.

She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.

Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.

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wonderbread

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thanks bro, doesn't just saying it come off as being a rude ******* though?
 

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Why do you care? Tell her you are not interested, from reading your initial post, it didn't seem like you ever talked to this girl, calling her "some random girl". So what do you care if you somehow hurt her feelings by being honest with her? If I were you, I'd rather help my friend than change some of my values just to maybe do something with some girl I don't know.

Just tell her you aren't interested, and leave it at that.
 

College.Junior

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Clearly OP's into her otherwise you wouldn't care about hurting her feelings (over your bestfriend's wtf?)
 

wonderbread

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I just straight up told her I wasn't interested and she demanded to know why, I just left it at not interested because I couldn't think of anything. The reason I made this thread was to avoid this situation and find some excuse other than "I'm not going to advance with you because my best friend is way more into you than I am." Oh well, moving on.
 

"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"

I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.

The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.

Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.

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Warrior74

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it's a trap.

the old, im gonna make you jealous by warming up to your homie game. Love triangles are the devils joy.
 
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