"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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Best friend's oneitis is way into me :nervous:

wonderbread

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My best friend, his oneitis(who has a bf that is not him), some random girl(i was not into her at all) and I went out together, he invited me so it wouldn't be weird and stuff and I was cool with it, I'm all for being a good wingman and talking up to girls in favor of a good friend. But the thing is she was giving ME serious IOI's lots of eye contact, kino and such(we went to his house and she sat next to me on the couch and was practically snuggling with me in front of him and I felt like an ass). She asked me my number, and not to be weird or rude i gave it to her. She hasn't texted or called which is good but if she starts I want to know a good way that won't hurt her feelings but show or tell her that I'm not interested because she's like an HB8 and I would have taken advantage if my friend didn't tell me that he was into her. My friend definitely noticed her noticing me and he's been a little weird with me since it happened, but he's the farthest anyone can ever be in the friend zone so I don't even know. She may just be a c*ck tease but I'm a little nervous. DJ thoughts?

I figure she may not even contact me if she has figured out for herself that I'm not interested by me not requesting her number.
 

"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"

She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.

You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.

She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.

The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.

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wonderbread

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thanks bro, doesn't just saying it come off as being a rude ******* though?
 

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Why do you care? Tell her you are not interested, from reading your initial post, it didn't seem like you ever talked to this girl, calling her "some random girl". So what do you care if you somehow hurt her feelings by being honest with her? If I were you, I'd rather help my friend than change some of my values just to maybe do something with some girl I don't know.

Just tell her you aren't interested, and leave it at that.
 

College.Junior

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Clearly OP's into her otherwise you wouldn't care about hurting her feelings (over your bestfriend's wtf?)
 

wonderbread

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I just straight up told her I wasn't interested and she demanded to know why, I just left it at not interested because I couldn't think of anything. The reason I made this thread was to avoid this situation and find some excuse other than "I'm not going to advance with you because my best friend is way more into you than I am." Oh well, moving on.
 

“The 22 Rules That Flip the Script With Women… And How You Can Use Them Tonight”

Most guys accidentally kill attraction before they even speak. They assume they need a bigger bank account, a better physique, or smoother lines. They miss the point.

Female desire operates on a specific set of psychological triggers.  Break them, and you're invisible. Follow them, and you become magnetic.

I learned this the hard way. Years of freezing up. Getting friend-zoned. Watching other guys walk away with the girl I wanted. Then I discovered a set of 22 simple rules that rewired my entire approach.

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Warrior74

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it's a trap.

the old, im gonna make you jealous by warming up to your homie game. Love triangles are the devils joy.
 
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