You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.
You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.
You made your case like a lawyer. Stable job. Good guy. Ready for something real. All true. All irrelevant.
She weighed your points, nodded along, felt nothing — then fell hard for some tattooed bartender with a motorcycle and a gambling problem.
Logic is where attraction goes to die. The "22 Rules" work a level deeper, on the subconscious switches that decide within minutes whether you register as a MAN or as part of the furniture.
Stop presenting evidence. Start flipping switches.
Attraction runs on a clock.
She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.
The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."
One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.
Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.
I don't know how you can justify this as something a MAN wouldn't do. Put yourself in the guy's shoes. You've been dating a girl for FIVE YEARS. You've invested time, money, love, energy, etc. You're getting ready to commit to her exclusively for life. Until you die. Then you find out she's been f'ing around with some guy named Eric. You really want to let her off easy? Imagine the extent of your anger. She essentially wasted five years of your life. Five years that could have been spent meeting more worthy women. Also keep in mind this wasn't some floozie he was seeing for a month or two. If that was the case, I could see this being a little harsh/unnecessary. As is, I applaud the guy's actions and hope he finds someone who treats him better.Upside said:There is no excuse for cheating, but is this something that a MAN would do? Probably not. The build up was funny but when the chick really started to break down into tears I found it kind of sad. Sure she did deserve it in a sense and her crying may have well been a way for her to victimize herself and make the radio jocks look like *******s, but at the end of the day the dude should have just dumped her ass in private.