"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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Benign Neglect And The Modern Man

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While I'm sure most of us agree that there are a few specific policy reforms which stand to disproportionately benefit men who are on the lower rungs of the socioecomic ladder (Ending The Drug War, Abolishing most forms of state aid in favor of steering folks into jobs, increasing access to vocational training), it's increasingly to tough to also not think: Someone needs to write an article along these lines https://www.esquire.com/news-politics/a162/esq1206blackessay-108/ , denouncing that portion of the male population recently discussed in a separate thread https://www.sosuave.net/forum/threa...r-life-who-are-strangers.282411/#post-3122787


Whatever problems exist within The System, what REALLY retards men in '24 is the worst of "us"... Specifically the Carl Benjamins, the Young Thugs, and their legions of imitators, who disdain things like upward mobility via intellectual expansion and physical toil as "Normie Stuff" or "Acting White", and who instead valorize the thug existence or being real-life equivalents to protagonists in a Judd Apatow movie

A proposal that's likely to be inflammatory: It's time for "ascended men" to wish congenital schlubs like these well, then forget that such fella ever existed. Just as women may be concerned with the state of the planet overall, but spend no more than a few seconds each year sweating the fates of cat ladies and dive bar strumpets, we need to send the schlubs on their way. Let's instead start extolling the most virtuous of ourselves. Talking here men like

-David Nott https://www.npr.org/sections/health...-covid-19-is-like-fighting-an-invisible-enemy

-Chris Haroun https://www.fastcompany.com/9096852...class-sparked-a-groundbreaking-rwandan-school

-Matthew Alexander

-Robert Woodson https://www.amazon.com/Triumphs-Joseph-Community-Reviving-Neighborhoods/dp/1416567860

-Chen Guangcheng https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podca...t-tyranny-in-the/id1571771739?i=1000589800564

The list could go on
 

"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"

She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.

You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.

She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.

The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.

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Let's instead start extolling the most virtuous of ourselves
And on a similar note https://www.sosuave.net/forum/threa...r-life-who-are-strangers.282411/#post-3123146 , let's also start openly and vociferously denouncing male Feminists who take roles such as these https://www.sosuave.net/forum/threads/my-movie-review-blue-valentine.270230/ rather than recoiling in disgust upon reading the script, for they also represent what's most REPUGNANT in modern men

If we're serious about helping men who aren't doing well, let's start putting out PSAs encouraging guys to help themselves, by NOT being an unmotivated schlub with zero ambitions, who settles for a broad who's pregnant with another man's child

Ya never know... Society just might start showing us a bit more respect, if we start respecting ourselves a trifle more than most men today do
 
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