"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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Bench Pressing Solo

Celadus

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I workout alone and very early in the morning. No one else is in the gym. I generally use dumb bells for bench press and I have trouble with the initial lift off. I hold the weights, and fall backwards but the weight gets stuck on me, but if I start from an extended position everything goes fine.

Any suggestions on techniques to get the weight above me starting out?
 

"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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Can you lift them from the floor WHILE you're laying flat on the bench? Put the dumbbell at arms extended length on the floor and then just lift it up without bending your elbows.

This is a strange scenario. I don't understand how you're having trouble with initial lift-off yet are able to, I'm assuming, complete multiple reps with full range of motion. Either your range of motion is not full or you must need to work on pecs/shoulders. I'm taking a shot in the dark here so bear with me.

Oh, can't you ask the gym attendant/front-desk person to spot you?
 

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I think its because of my body mechanics. I have long arms. A lot of reputable trainers like John Berardi suggest changing up the range of motion based on how you're built.

I might try a few extra warm up sets and see if that helps.

The attendant that time of morning is an 18 year old girl.
 

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I don't understand the problem.

When I'm doing a dumbbell press, I pick up the weights, sit down and let the dumbbells lay on each thigh, by the knee. When I'm ready to go, I lean back, and kick my knees up(one at a time) and bam the weights are up in the air.
 

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Like Shyyhs said, position with the dumbells on your knees, roll back whilst keeping that seated position, effectively kicking them up.

I used to do this, until it got ridiculous where i needed to basically deadlift the DB off the floor.. Then I switched to Barbell presses.
 

"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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