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Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.

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You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.

Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.

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bench 225 in four months of traning is it ok??

manish

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hello guys

i ,m able to do 225 bench 3 reps ..

is it ok? or i need to put more effort here

squats is 265


let me know if is ok...

manish
 

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Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

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Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

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NOT OKAY. You should be doing over 400lbs each for the big 3. Squat, bench and deadlift.

Any lower just means you're slacking off!
 

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Im assuming search1ng is joking. But in three reps after 4 months both are not bad.

Should try upping the sets and reps on a lower weight first however and then gradually progressing to the heavier weights
 

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Where did you start? If you started benching 95 lbs. and are now benching 225, that's tremendous progress. But if you started at 200, and after 4 months doing 225, then there's an issue. In any case, progress is progress. As long as you're getting stronger, that's all that matters.
 

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She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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hey guys ..thanks for responding

Dice52987 said:
Where did you start?
Accroding to my jornal here ..i started with 85 lbs now i can do 225..i guess i can go uptp 250...will hit that in coming week

jocca said:
Should try upping the sets and reps on a lower weight first however and then gradually progressing to the heavier weights
for 180 lbs i can do 10 reps without any help, but when it comes to 225..i suck badly..i can just do 3 reps...

search1ng said:
You should be doing over 400lbs
lol..i dont think i can lift that much bench...i need to get 3 to 4 years of traning for that.

waynejohn said:
You need to spend more time squatting.
i,m working for that..last time when i did that i went for 315.so improving on that..

also i have dropped 10 kg of wt..
so let me know hows the progress.

regards
manish
 

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your bench isn't to high for anything.

How do you go from 85 to 225 ?? I think you may be confusing bench press with some kind of ISO Lateral chest press machine or something...i dont believe you made that big of a jump in such a short amount of time. Before you were completely clueless and a complete rookie now your benching 225 ??

How low are you lowering the bar ??
 

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search1ng said:
NOT OKAY. You should be doing over 400lbs each for the big 3. Squat, bench and deadlift.

Any lower just means you're slacking off!
...this is why the internet is the best place for information...

Form means more then anything else. Not a random number of how much your supposed to lift.
 

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Drum&Bass said:
Before you were completely clueless and a complete rookie now your benching 225 ??
Doesn't that go hand in hand? If your form sucks your numbers may be much lower than what you'd ideally be able to get, so a newbie can progress on both form and strength. Or?
 

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search1ng said:
NOT OKAY. You should be doing over 400lbs each for the big 3. Squat, bench and deadlift.

Any lower just means you're slacking off!
anyone taking this seriously, I was joking.
OP, good job they're good numbers, and like Blink said, form > everything. Except women.
 

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She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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hello guys...so should i stick upto 225 or should i go more...i can go upto 280..in weeks i guess..

Kerpal said:
The important question is, what are you squatting (to full depth) and deadlifting?
i,m not deadlifting...my trainer has said after six months(2 months remaining) i will be allowed to do that exercise...

but i,m able to do rows with 100 lbs dumbell

and Tbar with 160 lbs with max of 3 reps

about squatting i,m not squatting heavy weights to full depth...i have a fear..that i will collapse ..but with lower weights i do full depth.

Drum&Bass said:
your bench isn't to high for anything.

How do you go from 85 to 225 ?? I think you may be confusing bench press with some kind of ISO Lateral chest press machine or something...i dont believe you made that big of a jump in such a short amount of time. Before you were completely clueless and a complete rookie now your benching 225 ??

How low are you lowering the bar ??
i,m not rookie ..i had gone to gym before this.. once for 3 months but then i had a gap of 1 yr in between...you can find my 2 journals here ..but then i used to do more cardio than weights..that time they did nt allow me to do bench press..

if 85 to 225 is big jump...then yes i have jumped that much..i changed my technique..and i was able to achieve that much...i think i can go up to 280 in coming weeks.

i know what is bench press ..the only thing is i,m holding it on wider side than this video.

and i dont touch my chest with the bar..just above the chest then up again...

RMM said:
so a newbie can progress on both form and strength
i think i,m at good form..yes..i have increased some strength .. when i started i was able to do 10 hindu push ups..now i can do upto 27 ...

search1ng said:
I was joking.
i knew that...lol


also i need to ask..is 10 kg wt loss enough..in 4 moths. ..i was 87 when i started..now near to 77.

let me know fells

regards
manish
 
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