Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.
Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?
You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.
Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.
Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.
She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.
Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.
So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.
The words come later. The impression comes first.
You need to spend more time squatting.manish said:i ,m able to do 225 bench 3 reps ..
squats is 265
Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.
You've been "getting ready" for two years.
She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.
Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.
Accroding to my jornal here ..i started with 85 lbs now i can do 225..i guess i can go uptp 250...will hit that in coming weekDice52987 said:Where did you start?
for 180 lbs i can do 10 reps without any help, but when it comes to 225..i suck badly..i can just do 3 reps...jocca said:Should try upping the sets and reps on a lower weight first however and then gradually progressing to the heavier weights
lol..i dont think i can lift that much bench...i need to get 3 to 4 years of traning for that.search1ng said:You should be doing over 400lbs
i,m working for that..last time when i did that i went for 315.so improving on that..waynejohn said:You need to spend more time squatting.
...this is why the internet is the best place for information...search1ng said:NOT OKAY. You should be doing over 400lbs each for the big 3. Squat, bench and deadlift.
Any lower just means you're slacking off!
Doesn't that go hand in hand? If your form sucks your numbers may be much lower than what you'd ideally be able to get, so a newbie can progress on both form and strength. Or?Drum&Bass said:Before you were completely clueless and a complete rookie now your benching 225 ??
anyone taking this seriously, I was joking.search1ng said:NOT OKAY. You should be doing over 400lbs each for the big 3. Squat, bench and deadlift.
Any lower just means you're slacking off!
That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?
She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."
She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.
I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.
Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.
i,m not deadlifting...my trainer has said after six months(2 months remaining) i will be allowed to do that exercise...Kerpal said:The important question is, what are you squatting (to full depth) and deadlifting?
i,m not rookie ..i had gone to gym before this.. once for 3 months but then i had a gap of 1 yr in between...you can find my 2 journals here ..but then i used to do more cardio than weights..that time they did nt allow me to do bench press..Drum&Bass said:your bench isn't to high for anything.
How do you go from 85 to 225 ?? I think you may be confusing bench press with some kind of ISO Lateral chest press machine or something...i dont believe you made that big of a jump in such a short amount of time. Before you were completely clueless and a complete rookie now your benching 225 ??
How low are you lowering the bar ??
i think i,m at good form..yes..i have increased some strength .. when i started i was able to do 10 hindu push ups..now i can do upto 27 ...RMM said:so a newbie can progress on both form and strength
i knew that...lolsearch1ng said:I was joking.