You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.
For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.
Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.
The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.
That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?
She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."
She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.
I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.
Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.
You need to spend more time squatting.manish said:i ,m able to do 225 bench 3 reps ..
squats is 265
You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.
Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.
She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.
Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.
Accroding to my jornal here ..i started with 85 lbs now i can do 225..i guess i can go uptp 250...will hit that in coming weekDice52987 said:Where did you start?
for 180 lbs i can do 10 reps without any help, but when it comes to 225..i suck badly..i can just do 3 reps...jocca said:Should try upping the sets and reps on a lower weight first however and then gradually progressing to the heavier weights
lol..i dont think i can lift that much bench...i need to get 3 to 4 years of traning for that.search1ng said:You should be doing over 400lbs
i,m working for that..last time when i did that i went for 315.so improving on that..waynejohn said:You need to spend more time squatting.
...this is why the internet is the best place for information...search1ng said:NOT OKAY. You should be doing over 400lbs each for the big 3. Squat, bench and deadlift.
Any lower just means you're slacking off!
Doesn't that go hand in hand? If your form sucks your numbers may be much lower than what you'd ideally be able to get, so a newbie can progress on both form and strength. Or?Drum&Bass said:Before you were completely clueless and a complete rookie now your benching 225 ??
anyone taking this seriously, I was joking.search1ng said:NOT OKAY. You should be doing over 400lbs each for the big 3. Squat, bench and deadlift.
Any lower just means you're slacking off!
She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.
You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.
She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.
The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.
i,m not deadlifting...my trainer has said after six months(2 months remaining) i will be allowed to do that exercise...Kerpal said:The important question is, what are you squatting (to full depth) and deadlifting?
i,m not rookie ..i had gone to gym before this.. once for 3 months but then i had a gap of 1 yr in between...you can find my 2 journals here ..but then i used to do more cardio than weights..that time they did nt allow me to do bench press..Drum&Bass said:your bench isn't to high for anything.
How do you go from 85 to 225 ?? I think you may be confusing bench press with some kind of ISO Lateral chest press machine or something...i dont believe you made that big of a jump in such a short amount of time. Before you were completely clueless and a complete rookie now your benching 225 ??
How low are you lowering the bar ??
i think i,m at good form..yes..i have increased some strength .. when i started i was able to do 10 hindu push ups..now i can do upto 27 ...RMM said:so a newbie can progress on both form and strength
i knew that...lolsearch1ng said:I was joking.