Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.
She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.
Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.
So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.
The words come later. The impression comes first.
You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.
And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.
Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.
The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.
You need to spend more time squatting.manish said:i ,m able to do 225 bench 3 reps ..
squats is 265
Attraction runs on a clock.
She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.
The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."
One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.
Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.
Accroding to my jornal here ..i started with 85 lbs now i can do 225..i guess i can go uptp 250...will hit that in coming weekDice52987 said:Where did you start?
for 180 lbs i can do 10 reps without any help, but when it comes to 225..i suck badly..i can just do 3 reps...jocca said:Should try upping the sets and reps on a lower weight first however and then gradually progressing to the heavier weights
lol..i dont think i can lift that much bench...i need to get 3 to 4 years of traning for that.search1ng said:You should be doing over 400lbs
i,m working for that..last time when i did that i went for 315.so improving on that..waynejohn said:You need to spend more time squatting.
...this is why the internet is the best place for information...search1ng said:NOT OKAY. You should be doing over 400lbs each for the big 3. Squat, bench and deadlift.
Any lower just means you're slacking off!
Doesn't that go hand in hand? If your form sucks your numbers may be much lower than what you'd ideally be able to get, so a newbie can progress on both form and strength. Or?Drum&Bass said:Before you were completely clueless and a complete rookie now your benching 225 ??
anyone taking this seriously, I was joking.search1ng said:NOT OKAY. You should be doing over 400lbs each for the big 3. Squat, bench and deadlift.
Any lower just means you're slacking off!
That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?
She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."
She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.
I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.
Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.
i,m not deadlifting...my trainer has said after six months(2 months remaining) i will be allowed to do that exercise...Kerpal said:The important question is, what are you squatting (to full depth) and deadlifting?
i,m not rookie ..i had gone to gym before this.. once for 3 months but then i had a gap of 1 yr in between...you can find my 2 journals here ..but then i used to do more cardio than weights..that time they did nt allow me to do bench press..Drum&Bass said:your bench isn't to high for anything.
How do you go from 85 to 225 ?? I think you may be confusing bench press with some kind of ISO Lateral chest press machine or something...i dont believe you made that big of a jump in such a short amount of time. Before you were completely clueless and a complete rookie now your benching 225 ??
How low are you lowering the bar ??
i think i,m at good form..yes..i have increased some strength .. when i started i was able to do 10 hindu push ups..now i can do upto 27 ...RMM said:so a newbie can progress on both form and strength
i knew that...lolsearch1ng said:I was joking.