Being yourself or impressing a girl in regards to a guy's lifestyle?

[crackers444]

I am wondering, when talking with a girl and she asks you for example "what do you do for fun?".Should you be yourself and tell her the truth or try and impress her and say you like to go to bars/drink(when in fact you don't do either), for not being seen as an outcast from the majority of young girl's and guys who do frequent bars/drink.

 

[Climax]

Honesty is the best policy.

If there is something about yourself that you think needs working on, then work on it so that you wont have to lie to be proud to be you.

 

[LeComteDeMonteCristo]

I am wondering, when talking with a girl and she asks you for example "what do you do for fun?".Should you be yourself and tell her the truth or try and impress her and say you like to go to bars/drink(when in fact you don't do either), for not being seen as an outcast from the majority of young girl's and guys who do frequent bars/drink.

I don't understand where you are coming from. Do you really think you can impress a woman by telling her you are just like every other chode out there?

More importantly, why are you reaction seeking? Why are you in a frame where you are assessing everything you say in terms of how much it impresses her?

Learn how to express your authentic self confidently. That is attractive.

 

[Interceptor]

You can only do this in the most optimum manner once you have established GOOD Rapport.
Otherwise, be C+F and respectfully evade the questions. You must calibrate if her attempts at rapport are sincere, or genuine, and when exactly is she inserting them..at what stage of the interaction?

You don't always have to be 100 percent serious in your replies to her, in the first interactions, because you need to understand and show her you are not needy or desperate, and are not 'trying to impress' her or 'pursue' her, or trying to 'get her to like you."

You must be patient and disiplined though.
And recognize the exact moment she starts the rapport and comfort stages.
This is crucial.

See if you can wait for her to intitate the change in the interaction.



As a general rule, avoid trying to impress, and trying to Qualify yourself to her.
You can share similarities, commonalities, similar intererest, hobbies, etc.
But be well calibrated.


In addition, anytime you satisfy HER request for more informtation ALWAYS throw out one of your own.

Her: "What do you like to do for fun?"

You: (In Attraction) "I like to go waterboarding." (grin)

Her: "Cool. Sounds like fun!"

You: "silly girl! You don't know what waterboarding IS , do you??!" (laughs)

Her: "so, what do you like to do for fun?"

You: (in Rapport and comfort) "I like to do kickboxing, and go out with my friends. We like to go out to the beach and have a BBQ. Listen to music. I also like to go out to concerts, and yada yada (keep strong eye contact, be intimate, and stay close in proximity to her, stay warm to her)

So what do you like to do for fun?" (in rapport and comfort , you must do this)

Her: "Um..well. I like to yada yada and I also do kickboxing as well.."

You: (IOI and SOI right now) "Thats cool. I like that about you. You're independent and strong, and into fitness. That's sexy."




If it is not reciprocal she will realize it, and she will realize that you are desperate.

 

[Social_disturbance]

Good topic! I was wondering this same exact thing! Because of my ex gf and probably my own nature, I really liked staying in and watching a movie with her and never was really into the bar/club scene that much, but I also liked going with her to different places - i.e. museums, the beach, Pasadena, Santa Monica, Venice, etc. I pretty much try to be honest for the most part, but I will fabricate slightly so as to not look too much like I dont go out.

 

[MooseGod]

ha...waterboarding....the extreme sport everybody's talking about!