"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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Being ****y/super confident

zekko

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If you have authentic confidence can being "in love" with the wrong woman tear this down?
If your confidence truly comes from within, a woman should not be able to affect it. That doesn't mean that getting involved with the wrong woman can't cause you some pain though, in some way or other. It's not a good idea, although I know doing the right thing isn't always easy.

I think most people's confidence probably comes from a mix of the inner self and outer experiences though, so that would make it easier to get shaken. Ideally, confidence should come from within, but from a practical standpoint I'm not sure that's possible. You have to be able to demonstrate some sort of success externally or you're just deluding yourself.
 

"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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If your confidence truly comes from within, a woman should not be able to affect it. That doesn't mean that getting involved with the wrong woman can't cause you some pain though, in some way or other. It's not a good idea, although I know doing the right thing isn't always easy.

I think most people's confidence probably comes from a mix of the inner self and outer experiences though, so that would make it easier to get shaken. Ideally, confidence should come from within, but from a practical standpoint I'm not sure that's possible. You have to be able to demonstrate some sort of success externally or you're just deluding yourself.
Well I had HUGE and hustified confidence in my career and with the ladies but the relationship with my ex wife tore all that down. My woman before her way supportSup and she was very negative and damaging. So my confidence got affected by her treatment of me due to naivety. I know better now. But I was just pointing out that if your naive and think your "in love" a womanan can shred you self esteem. It took me many many years to get it all back .
 

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My woman before her way supportSup and she was very negative and damaging. So my confidence got affected by her treatment of me due to naivety. I know better now. But I was just pointing out that if your naive and think your "in love" a womanan can shred you self esteem. It took me many many years to get it all back .
Naivety and "love" can be a deadly combination. But you came out of it, and I bet you are now stronger for having that life experience. Sometimes you learn more from failure than success, as unpleasant as it might be.
 

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Naivety and "love" can be a deadly combination. But you came out of it, and I bet you are now stronger for having that life experience. Sometimes you learn more from failure than success, as unpleasant as it might be.
Yeah she was cutting on my brains like Hannibel Lector.

I'm good now and I received the lesson.
 
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