"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."

Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.

Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?

You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.

Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.

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zekko

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If you have authentic confidence can being "in love" with the wrong woman tear this down?
If your confidence truly comes from within, a woman should not be able to affect it. That doesn't mean that getting involved with the wrong woman can't cause you some pain though, in some way or other. It's not a good idea, although I know doing the right thing isn't always easy.

I think most people's confidence probably comes from a mix of the inner self and outer experiences though, so that would make it easier to get shaken. Ideally, confidence should come from within, but from a practical standpoint I'm not sure that's possible. You have to be able to demonstrate some sort of success externally or you're just deluding yourself.
 

"She's Out of Your League"

You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.

Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.

She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.

Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.

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If your confidence truly comes from within, a woman should not be able to affect it. That doesn't mean that getting involved with the wrong woman can't cause you some pain though, in some way or other. It's not a good idea, although I know doing the right thing isn't always easy.

I think most people's confidence probably comes from a mix of the inner self and outer experiences though, so that would make it easier to get shaken. Ideally, confidence should come from within, but from a practical standpoint I'm not sure that's possible. You have to be able to demonstrate some sort of success externally or you're just deluding yourself.
Well I had HUGE and hustified confidence in my career and with the ladies but the relationship with my ex wife tore all that down. My woman before her way supportSup and she was very negative and damaging. So my confidence got affected by her treatment of me due to naivety. I know better now. But I was just pointing out that if your naive and think your "in love" a womanan can shred you self esteem. It took me many many years to get it all back .
 

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My woman before her way supportSup and she was very negative and damaging. So my confidence got affected by her treatment of me due to naivety. I know better now. But I was just pointing out that if your naive and think your "in love" a womanan can shred you self esteem. It took me many many years to get it all back .
Naivety and "love" can be a deadly combination. But you came out of it, and I bet you are now stronger for having that life experience. Sometimes you learn more from failure than success, as unpleasant as it might be.
 

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Naivety and "love" can be a deadly combination. But you came out of it, and I bet you are now stronger for having that life experience. Sometimes you learn more from failure than success, as unpleasant as it might be.
Yeah she was cutting on my brains like Hannibel Lector.

I'm good now and I received the lesson.
 
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