"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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If you have authentic confidence can being "in love" with the wrong woman tear this down?
If your confidence truly comes from within, a woman should not be able to affect it. That doesn't mean that getting involved with the wrong woman can't cause you some pain though, in some way or other. It's not a good idea, although I know doing the right thing isn't always easy.

I think most people's confidence probably comes from a mix of the inner self and outer experiences though, so that would make it easier to get shaken. Ideally, confidence should come from within, but from a practical standpoint I'm not sure that's possible. You have to be able to demonstrate some sort of success externally or you're just deluding yourself.
 

"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"

She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.

You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.

She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.

The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.

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If your confidence truly comes from within, a woman should not be able to affect it. That doesn't mean that getting involved with the wrong woman can't cause you some pain though, in some way or other. It's not a good idea, although I know doing the right thing isn't always easy.

I think most people's confidence probably comes from a mix of the inner self and outer experiences though, so that would make it easier to get shaken. Ideally, confidence should come from within, but from a practical standpoint I'm not sure that's possible. You have to be able to demonstrate some sort of success externally or you're just deluding yourself.
Well I had HUGE and hustified confidence in my career and with the ladies but the relationship with my ex wife tore all that down. My woman before her way supportSup and she was very negative and damaging. So my confidence got affected by her treatment of me due to naivety. I know better now. But I was just pointing out that if your naive and think your "in love" a womanan can shred you self esteem. It took me many many years to get it all back .
 

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My woman before her way supportSup and she was very negative and damaging. So my confidence got affected by her treatment of me due to naivety. I know better now. But I was just pointing out that if your naive and think your "in love" a womanan can shred you self esteem. It took me many many years to get it all back .
Naivety and "love" can be a deadly combination. But you came out of it, and I bet you are now stronger for having that life experience. Sometimes you learn more from failure than success, as unpleasant as it might be.
 

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Naivety and "love" can be a deadly combination. But you came out of it, and I bet you are now stronger for having that life experience. Sometimes you learn more from failure than success, as unpleasant as it might be.
Yeah she was cutting on my brains like Hannibel Lector.

I'm good now and I received the lesson.
 
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