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The only "men" saying its beta or whatever to be with multiple women at once are the mega-betas and clueless ones.

I've been touting laws of attraction and man/woman DNA programming for years on this site. Funny that I get some pushback occasionally.

I think the men that "settle" for one woman longterm and placate to her needs (or face divorce or breakup), raise her kids, play house in the married life ARE more docile, less aggressive, and likely beta. Science even backs this up; men in relationships have been shown to have less testosterone than ones who aren't.

I'm not knocking anyone, just saying and citing facts.

At some point, I get bored with every woman I'm with. In my last LTR, the woman was hot af, from Croatia, probably an 8.5.

BUT, if you have a hot fudge sundae every day, you'll get sick of them eventually. I do, anyway.

So for me, I enjoy women in doses, but FAR more prefer the uncommitted single life. If I want sex, like a faucet I turn it on, and when I'm done, I turn it off.

OP, you're simply acting on your biological and DNA-influenced urges. They are there to propagate and preserve our species. The other woman was too. You need to simply determine if the "couple/LTR" life is for you vs being single. I would recommend against trying to do both at once. Integrity is paramount, to me anyway.

Good luck.

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WTF dude. What's your problem with hot fudge sundae's?

As for being beta to have someone in your life? Yea, well, going to have to disagree with you there chief. Doubtful The Rock, Pres. Trump, Dana White and Conor McGregor are as "beta" as you say.
 

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The only "men" saying its beta or whatever to be with multiple women at once are the mega-betas and clueless ones.

I've been touting laws of attraction and man/woman DNA programming for years on this site. Funny that I get some pushback occasionally.

I think the men that "settle" for one woman longterm and placate to her needs (or face divorce or breakup), raise her kids, play house in the married life ARE more docile, less aggressive, and likely beta. Science even backs this up; men in relationships have been shown to have less testosterone than ones who aren't.

I'm not knocking anyone, just saying and citing facts.

At some point, I get bored with every woman I'm with. In my last LTR, the woman was hot af, from Croatia, probably an 8.5.

BUT, if you have a hot fudge sundae every day, you'll get sick of them eventually. I do, anyway.

So for me, I enjoy women in doses, but FAR more prefer the uncommitted single life. If I want sex, like a faucet I turn it on, and when I'm done, I turn it off.

OP, you're simply acting on your biological and DNA-influenced urges. They are there to propagate and preserve our species. The other woman was too. You need to simply determine if the "couple/LTR" life is for you vs being single. I would recommend against trying to do both at once. Integrity is paramount, to me anyway.

Good luck.

Dash
If your treated with respect and deference in your relationship and fvcking daily i don't think that equal lower testosterone. The case study likely shows the test levels of married men who are bossed and shut down sexually. Which is going to equal lower testosterone.
 

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In an ideal world all guys would like to have sex with as many girls as possible. But if you've had a lot of sex just for the sake of it, you may eventually feel a sense of emptiness outside of the initial orgasms. This is what LTR's/Marriage can bring that just having sex with someone can't. I know not everyone is going to agree with me and maybe some of you haven't met that great gal yet that would be willing to ride and die with you(some of you don't even believe that can exist). And I know some of you are selfish or narcissist(even if you won't admit it or realize it).

I know us men are visual creatures and need variety and to see something different. If you want a playboy lifestyle and can be fulfilled by meaningless sex just for the sake of it and do not seek a higher purpose "with" someone, then more power to you. But it's going to be hard to have your cake and eat it too. Either concentrate on a higher purpose in building something with someone, or stay the playboy course.
For the guys that don't understand or can't make a decision, you probably haven't had sex with enough women and ridden the pvssy carousel long enough.

I also find it funny that we also talk about pair bonding or lack of it in women that sleep around. Is it possible this can happen to "some" males as well?

Ideally I think every guy probably wants a one way open LTR/Marriage where they can ride and die with someone but be able to screw others openly. Most can't pull this off unfortunately so we must choose our lifestyle that we want. My $.02

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Do what works for you and if you aren't sure yet, ride the pvssy carousel more until you find your answer.
 

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You will ALWAYS want other women. Any man that suggests otherwise is either a) completely dishonest, or b) has serious masculinity issues.

With that said, it's not a matter of desiring other women, it is a matter of not acting on it. It's also a matter of not putting yourself in situations to cheat. Activities such as drinking with female coworkers, maintaining close relationships with females, or spending time in social gatherings/locations all lend themselves to promiscuous behavior.

If you prefer to engage in such activities, then you should make your lady well aware that this is who you are. She knows the risks, and can choose whether or not she wants to continue in the relationship.

It is perfectly normal to have chemistry with people who are not your partner, but it is your duty not to act on it. If an opportunity with a woman falls into your lap, you have a choice to make. Is this fleeting feeling or desire worth losing your current lady? Maybe. Maybe not. That is a decision that only you can answer.

Life is about making difficult decisions and living with the consequences...
 

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It isn't natural to only be with one woman for a man. I bet you could get a 3some with her and your GF if you pressed the issue...
Possibly. With the winter coming up, we're probably going to be doing things a lot more indoors with a group of her friends like small get together, small house parties, etc. We'll see what happens. My girlfriend admitted to me that should would be down for it with a specific friend but that friend lives far out west. If it does happen, i'll post it on SS.
 

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nothing beats the excitement of something new, that never goes away.
Yes, this one is tough to beat and ignore. The curiosity of the new moan, new smell, how she bends over, how she gives BJ's, etc.
 

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In an ideal world all guys would like to have sex with as many girls as possible. But if you've had a lot of sex just for the sake of it, you may eventually feel a sense of emptiness outside of the initial orgasms. This is what LTR's/Marriage can bring that just having sex with someone can't. I know not everyone is going to agree with me and maybe some of you haven't met that great gal yet that would be willing to ride and die with you(some of you don't even believe that can exist). And I know some of you are selfish or narcissist(even if you won't admit it or realize it).

I know us men are visual creatures and need variety and to see something different. If you want a playboy lifestyle and can be fulfilled by meaningless sex just for the sake of it and do not seek a higher purpose "with" someone, then more power to you. But it's going to be hard to have your cake and eat it too. Either concentrate on a higher purpose in building something with someone, or stay the playboy course.
For the guys that don't understand or can't make a decision, you probably haven't had sex with enough women and ridden the pvssy carousel long enough.

I also find it funny that we also talk about pair bonding or lack of it in women that sleep around. Is it possible this can happen to "some" males as well?

Ideally I think every guy probably wants a one way open LTR/Marriage where they can ride and die with someone but be able to screw others openly. Most can't pull this off unfortunately so we must choose our lifestyle that we want. My $.02

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Do what works for you and if you aren't sure yet, ride the pvssy carousel more until you find your answer.
Funny you mention this, I thought about the "meaningless sex" thing and in a way, I sometimes enjoy just being around a multitude of Women. I love them around me. I've verbally and honestly expressed this to my girlfriend and this is why she brings her groups of friends around me.

The "Blabbering" details I left out in my original post was all of us having drinks and they had music playing while making snacks. I was kicking back on the couch having my drink and a cigar while they danced and shaked their asses to the music. it got to the point that they started grinding on each other a little. (LOL im laughing because I know this sounds like some made up pre-porn scene but this is legit how it went down) but seriously, this is why that girl that made the move on me said that she started getting horny.

Anyway, I told my girlfriend upfront that when her friends are around, I honestly think about fvcking all of them and she even said that's kinda of arousing to her. Maybe she's opening up to how I am? I don't know but back to what you mentioned in the post, yes sometimes i just like having them around me and I've even thought what it would be like to have multiple GF but I know that has potential to be a total disaster with jealousy, mood swings, etc. Plus i have my moments when I like to be left completely alone to read financial books, work on my business and investments, etc. A man needs alone time in my opinion.
 

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Anyway, I told my girlfriend upfront that when her friends are around, I honestly think about fvcking all of them and she even said that's kinda of arousing to her. Maybe she's opening up to how I am? I don't know but back to what you mentioned in the post, yes sometimes i just like having them around me and I've even thought what it would be like to have multiple GF but I know that has potential to be a total disaster with jealousy, mood swings, etc. Plus i have my moments when I like to be left completely alone to read financial books, work on my business and investments, etc. A man needs alone time in my opinion.
It's great you guys can discuss these sort of things in a relationship. But just remember jealousy is always a part of human nature and if she has any emotional investment in you, that part will eventually come out. Not if but when.
The best thing is to reassure her that you aren't going anywhere and she is your main to make her feel secure if you guys do go down the rabbit hole of experimenting. Some girls can take it, some can't.
 

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Yes, this one is tough to beat and ignore. The curiosity of the new moan, new smell, how she bends over, how she gives BJ's, etc.
I know alot of men think this way. All do not. If you have good pvssy at home that's perfectly adjusted to you its a great feeling. New doesn't mean better. The new scent can turn you off. The juices and texture might not be as fine. The look might not be your preference.
 

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I know alot of men think this way. All do not. If you have good pvssy at home that's perfectly adjusted to you its a great feeling. New doesn't mean better. The new scent can turn you off. The juices and texture might not be as fine. The look might not be your preference.
But I know a ton of men that think the next pvssy is always better.
 

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Anyway, I told my girlfriend upfront that when her friends are around, I honestly think about fvcking all of them and she even said that's kinda of arousing to her. Maybe she's opening up to how I am?
What are you going to do when she´s opening up enough to find it arrousing to **** all your buddies and starts to suggest threesomes with "Bob" and "Jimmy"?
 

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I get wanting to sleep with new women, but I'll never understand the guys that want to experience the thrill of the chase again. That sh!t is so pointless to me.
Is there a such thing as "good pvssy" and "bad pvssy"? Do you have preferences on the look? The scent? How the insides are laid out? How it responds to you? The texture? The effect it has on your mind? They are different...
 

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What are you going to do when she´s opening up enough to find it arrousing to **** all your buddies and starts to suggest threesomes with "Bob" and "Jimmy"?
That's a legitimate question.

I have no real close friends except for one and he's married. I keep my circles extremely tight. If i'm being 100% honest with myself and everyone else, I am selfish and want the Women all to myself.
 

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I get wanting to sleep with new women, but I'll never understand the guys that want to experience the thrill of the chase again. That sh!t is so pointless to me.
I don't think it's necessarily the "chase" itself but more of the thrill of excitement when seducing a Woman. Getting her juices flowing (literally). Every woman reacts different for the most part.

Some are much more exciting than others but there is a sense of male satisfaction when that quiet "prudish" girl who acts all innocent and "proper" gets so turned on by you that she does a complete 180 and goes wild begging you to fvck her.

Another example would be a girl who is such a complete b!tch with a smart mouth and you're able to melt her like butter by dominating her and she completely submitting to your masculinity.

These are just two small examples though.
 

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Is there a such thing as "good pvssy" and "bad pvssy"? Do you have preferences on the look? The scent? How the insides are laid out? How it responds to you? The texture? The effect it has on your mind? They are different...
a question not many answer because it is too titillating to answer.
Depends on how much the person relies on their senses. Touch/feel, smell, taste.

Its a person who is sensual who can itemize these things. Many don't think about it. Both genders.
 

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a question not many answer because it is too titillating to answer.
Depends on how much the person relies on their senses. Touch/feel, smell, taste.

Its a person who is sensual who can itemize these things. Many don't think about it. Both genders.
That's what I was saying. Those who don't pay attention like whats new and are "onto the next". On me certain pvssies i like a like a lot more than the others. Certain scent turns me on and another turns me off. The juices affect me. Some juices are intoxicating others have no affect. I prefer a few certain looks on them. So if I get a good one on a woman whose into me I hang on.
 
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They are not all created equal but that does NOT mean it wont satisfy a partner. You are talking bio chemistry and it is infinite
yes, no kidding hey? When you bring up biochemistry I'm reminded how different your loved one's scent is if they've been eating junk food if if they just started medication.

That scene in one of the 50 shades movies where he directs her what to eat
....this isn't to be controlling, its to avoid any weird biochemistry
 

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Is there a such thing as "good pvssy" and "bad pvssy"? Do you have preferences on the look? The scent? How the insides are laid out? How it responds to you? The texture? The effect it has on your mind? They are different...
I think it's a variety of things like the look, shape, style, skin tone, smell... etc.

For example, some Men might get turned on by large areolas, some smaller, some darker, some prefer pink, some prefer tan, some prefer dark etc. same thing with pvssy. Large lips, small lips... pink pvssy, dark pvssy,... tight and small or thick.

The food analogy is the best one IMO. Even though you may absolutely love Pizza,.... sometimes you might be in the mood for a ribeye steak.
 

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That's what I was saying. Those who don't pay attention like whats new and are "onto the next". On mr certain pvssies i lkke a like a lot more than the others. Certain scent turns me on and another turns me off. The juices affect me. Some juices are intoxicating others have no affect. I prefer a few certain looks on them. So if I get a good one on a woman whose into me I hang on.
When men are sending these girls their d!ck pics I think its an attempt to allow her to determine if width or length would suit her.
It's important to tell a new partner the truth right away, that you're not a good *fit* for each other.
Due to actual fit or other sensed chemistry that seems off.

Who's got the blatant honesty and kind courage to say that to a new partner though?

Anyways, loneliness can force one to ignore a mismatch in the despair 'we can make it work'
 

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a question not many answer because it is too titillating to answer.
Depends on how much the person relies on their senses. Touch/feel, smell, taste.

Its a person who is sensual who can itemize these things. Many don't think about it. Both genders.
there is a difference. along with other things, impacts how interested in returning for more.
 
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