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When men are sending these girls their d!ck pics I think its an attempt to allow her to determine if width or length would suit her.
It's important to tell a new partner the truth right away, that you're not a good *fit* for each other.
Due to actual fit or other sensed chemistry that seems off.

Who's got the blatant honesty and kind courage to say that to a new partner though?

Anyways, loneliness can force one to ignore a mismatch in the despair 'we can make it work'
Good d1ck ain't all about the size. The secret sauce is your swag, your pheromones and chemistry. One big d1ck might be like drugs to her and another boring. Its the same with pvssy. One of my ex could turn up the power in her snatch it was very addictive. Other pvssies are just muscular sleeves with no essence. Its crazy.
 

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I think it's a variety of things like the look, shape, style, skin tone, smell... etc.

For example, some Men might get turned on by large areolas, some smaller, some darker, some prefer pink, some prefer tan, some prefer dark etc. same thing with pvssy. Large lips, small lips... pink pvssy, dark pvssy,... tight and small or thick.

The food analogy is the best one IMO. Even though you may absolutely love Pizza,.... sometimes you might be in the mood for a ribeye steak.
Yep. True on boob shape and areola. One boob layout might be just boobs to a guy. And another makes him rock hard every time. The nipples I like you might hate.
 

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too bad you can't take the mouth from one, the smell from another, the texture from another one and put them all together magically for the perfect lay.

I think that may be the relentless reason we keep trying again and again.

If only we could find one person with everything. So we keep looking. It is a goal that will never be completed in your lifetime.
 

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too bad you can't take the mouth from one, the smell from another, the texture from another one and put them all together magically for the perfect lay.

I think that may be the relentless reason we keep trying again and again.

If only we could find one person with everything. So we keep looking. It is a goal that will never be completed in your lifetime.
Yep.
 

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Good d1ck ain't all about the size. The secret sauce is your swag, your pheromones and chemistry. One big d1ck might be like drugs to her and another boring. Its the same with pvssy. One of my ex could turn up the power in her snatch it was very addictive. Other pvssies are just muscular sleeves with no essence. Its crazy.
actually it is all about size......RELATIVE to what *fits* her.

Knowing how to use it like in porn is the next important factor.

Short men don't have short d!ck and tall men don't have long d!ck necessarily.
Same with fat and lean, strong and skinny.

With men its next to impossible to judge a book by its cover.
 

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too bad you can't take the mouth from one, the smell from another, the texture from another one and put them all together magically for the perfect lay.

I think that may be the relentless reason we keep trying again and again.

If only we could find one person with everything. So we keep looking. It is a goal that will never be completed in your lifetime.
You can also add in the girls different personalities. This is not physical but it's audibly and mentally arousing. A woman who tells you "Yes, bend me over and make me your slvt!" vs another who simply lays there not saying much however her moans are incredible. There's so much variety physically as well as sexual personality.
 

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You can also add in the girls different personalities. This is not physical but it's audibly and mentally arousing. A woman who tells you "Yes, bend me over and make me your slvt!" vs another who simply lays there not saying much however her moans are incredible. There's so much variety physically as well as sexual personality.
yes, I agree.

Ah, if only we could train our partner to say this-or-that phrase or to moan like this or that at this particular time.
 

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actually it is all about size......RELATIVE to what *fits* her.

Knowing how to use it like in porn is the next important factor.

Short men don't have short d!ck and tall men don't have long d!ck necessarily.
Same with fat and lean, strong and skinny.

With men its next to impossible to judge a book by its cover.
How many guys you been with? Cause in the women realm that chemistry matters alot.
 

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actually it is all about size......RELATIVE to what *fits* her.

Knowing how to use it like in porn is the next important factor.

Short men don't have short d!ck and tall men don't have long d!ck necessarily.
Same with fat and lean, strong and skinny.

With men its next to impossible to judge a book by its cover.
Notice I said two equally big d1cks have a different effect depending upon chemistry. One might stretch her out and make her come. The guy with the addictive chemistry c0ck is like crack cocaine.
 

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How many guys you been with? Cause in the women realm that chemistry matters alot.
how many times have I had sex?

I had a few multiyear relationships.

Watch porn and before it changed, saw a lot of pictures of regular guys on c raigslist.

There was a period of almost two years that I was buying magazines, including Pl aygirl.
 

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Notice I said two equally big d1cks have a different effect depending upon chemistry. One might stretch her out and make her come. The guy with the addictive chemistry c0ck is like crack cocaine.
I think I know what you're getting at and I believe you/trust you but I guess I never experienced that then. never experienced the "addictive chemistry c0ck" you just wrote.

I've been addicted to kissing. Never d!ck.
Probably explains why I never found a husband or whatever that was suitable. lol
 

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This thread has turned into so much LOL

I don't think I've ever seen a female so enthusiastic to analyze pvssy with guys in a men's forum before. :lol::up:
That's one analysis they'd have to ask a man.... No way in the world they could know without being born with a c0ck.
 

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too bad you can't take the mouth from one, the smell from another, the texture from another one and put them all together magically for the perfect lay.

I think that may be the relentless reason we keep trying again and again.

If only we could find one person with everything. So we keep looking. It is a goal that will never be completed in your lifetime.
It doesn't have to be perfect the thing that hooks you is the chemistry. I'm not sure it can be addictive chemistry and the scent is the opposite of your preference or the structure inside is gross or it looks like B Arby's.
 

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It doesn't have to be perfect the thing that hooks you is the chemistry. I'm not sure it can be addictive chemistry and the scent is the opposite of your preference or the structure inside is gross or it looks like B Arby's.
rb sandwich, lol

I have to be real careful with 'chemistry'

I always feel it when they like me but when I stop and ask myself if I like them without them liking me first....well, I just don't know.

Also, 'chemistry' can be confused for hormonal needs.
That it to say, is it just my hormones talking or do I feel an electricity still even after sex.
 

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Been thinking about this myself...

I've had 2 LTR's... Went into the first one at the end of high school. Hadn't had a serious girlfriend/sex/kiss before her. Only failed attempts due to my lack of experience. I was very into her. But I still would look at other girls. Other girls would turn me on. For the first two years of the relationship, we were doing the whole waiting for marriage things because she wanted to. I loved her enough that I was okay with that... for some time. At a certain point I was too horny and I started to inquire about whether she'd be okay if I had sex with other girls since she couldn't offer me that and I was interested in it. That upset her and made her insecure. Understandable. Anyways, I was madly in love with this girl... yet I still was attracted to other women and I still looked. That's how I've always been and that's something I'm coming to terms with today. I never acted on it. I simply looked. They remained fantasies.

The difference between me then and me now is that I'm starting to understand that it's okay to have fantasies. I'm starting to accept that if there's a nice ass... I'll want to look. Hell.. if a woman walks by and I feel like she MIGHT be attractive... I'll look. I'm working on not being ashamed about it anymore. Or feeling like that in and of itself is some act of dishonesty. I find that I am feeling a lot better mentally that I've started to accept that as part of my nature and that there's nothing wrong with me.

Staying committed in a relationship and not acting on urges is simply an exercise of discipline. Fitness is an easy example... so let's work with that one. Someone may find it desirable to have an attractive body - muscly, in shape, athletic... But the temptations that get in the way are the junk foods. While in this case it's probably fine to have some of that junk food in moderation.. let's assume it's best to just avoid it because you know it's bad for you. That's a choice. That requires discipline. That's all there is to it. You can choose to act on your urges or you can choose not to... You have to decide if acting on the urge gets you to a better place than you are at right now. As someone said earlier, you need to weigh the consequences. And yes... it might be hard to resist... but if you decided it's worth it to resist, then grab your nuts and stick it out. Do not let your feelings control you. They will be gone tomorrow.

I'm currently in a relationship of 5 months with a girl I was seeing for 9 months when I was casually dating. I still look at other women and I still have the urge to have sex with them. This is no surprise to me.. I'm a healthy man. I know I can get girls because I was doing it for two years so of course there's part of me that just wants to pull this chick because I think I could. But I can't help but feel bad about it sometimes.. after all, I made this decision to be with this one girl... why am I still wanting to put my **** elsewhere? It's fine. The issue is when that starts to take over my mind or when it causes me to cheat. Which I won't. That's not me and if it comes to that point then I need to consider if the relationship is right for me. It's all about self control and choices. There's nothing unnatural about having eyes for other people. There's nothing unnatural about being laser focused on the one you're dating. Everyone is different. People are way too complex to label what's natural and what's not. All we can do is deal with our individual contexts and decide what is right or wrong for us.

Evaluate your virtues. Execute discipline.
 

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I'm currently in a relationship of 5 months with a girl I was seeing for 9 months when I was casually dating. I still look at other women and I still have the urge to have sex with them.
I've been in a monogamous LTR for quite some time now, and I can tell you that I still notice when there are new attractive women around. i find them quite attractive and exciting, but I don't act on it. It's okay to appreciate a woman's beauty IMO, and that urge is never going to go away. But I know what I value and what would happen if I acted on it, to me it's just not worth the hassle.

Besides which, I've always thought that as the man you are supposed to the role model of appropriate behavior. Lead by example. I know a lot of guys here won't agree with that lol.
 

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The difference between me then and me now is that I'm starting to understand that it's okay to have fantasies. I'm starting to accept that if there's a nice ass... I'll want to look. Hell.. if a woman walks by and I feel like she MIGHT be attractive... I'll look. I'm working on not being ashamed about it anymore. Or feeling like that in and of itself is some act of dishonesty. I find that I am feeling a lot better mentally that I've started to accept that as part of my nature and that there's nothing wrong with me.
This is key what you said here. Men are shamed hard (by Women & other Men) for thinking like this. This is how a lot of Men truly think and feel. Not many Men are willing to speak out about this due to shaming.
 

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As I've stated before, I have a girlfriend now for a little less than a year and a half. It's been pretty good and she's a cool chick. Cooks for me, helps me out with whatever I need and sex is on demand. Whenever I want it, how I want it, I get it. So what's the problem? well... since I was single for almost 10 years, I have been with so many different Women and I really enjoyed the variety in sex. I became accustomed to it. It's been OK but I've found it to be pretty difficult to suppress that desire. A lot of Women find me attractive and it's hard for me to not think of fvcking other sexy Women. I think I've controlled myself pretty well though and I'm not looking to cheat on my girlfriend, I just won't go that route but I do understand how many Men desire a Woman or Women on the side.

This really got me thinking because on Saturday, my GF invited 2 of her friends over (very cute BTW) and we were all chilling out. I couldn't help but check out one of her friend's ass. As the day progressed and all of us having drinks, I just couldn't help but get a hard on in front of them but I played it off. Not long after this, everyone wanted to take pictures (Women love taking ridiculous amounts of pictures) My girl sits on my left lap and her phat ass friend sits on my right lap, I couldn't help but cop a feel. After a while, her friend makes a comment, close enough for me to hear that she is getting so horny but I act like I didn't hear it. I'll skip all the blabbering details but eventually we all went to a bar (outdoors obviously because of Covid) I end up mixing too many different drinks and I begin to not feel that well. I felt a little nauseated but nothing extreme yet. My girlfriend's friend says if I try to throw up and drink water I should feel better, she grabs me by my arm and helps me to the bathroom and she entered the bathroom stall with me rubbing my back. I didn't think anything of it yet but I couldn't help again looking at her ass. She again, in a low tone says, "ugh I'm so horny".... My instincts of my old self flared up... I stood up and grabbed her by her neck (not hard) and backed her into the wall and said "That ass is so fvckin nice and sexy, I bet you would like to watch me fvck my GF hard right in front of you while you play with your pvssy and then join in".. she just stared at me and said "Yes, i would love that.............You think my ass is sexy? im so fvcking turned on...". I realized what I was doing and although I wanted to grab that chick by her hair and bang the sh*t out of her, I came to my senses and stopped but my d!ck was hard. she noticed and felt it up quickly before leaving the bathroom stall. What intrigued me even more is that this girl can be a real B*tch to guys and can have a huge bad attitude, that's why i grabbed her by her neck and dominated her. Anyway, after that, I just told my girlfriend that I was going to head back to the apartment and pass out because I was feeling worse.

After a while, I was thinking if it's possible to be with (sexually) one Woman? some Men claim they have eyes for no other Women other than their own. Some others claim that it's not possible and monogamy is not natural. Some shame Men that desire multiple Women by saying "Only weak Men need more than one Woman" lol, etc. Curious to know the thoughts on the "One Woman Man" thing vs the "Multiple Woman Man"?

Can the desire ever be killed off? How do Men suppress those desires? Is it just the core of Masculinity to want to spread seed as much as he can?
this is completely normal and healthty , atleast you know she wont be cheating , if you're the stud you say you are this is your show.
 

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rb sandwich, lol

I have to be real careful with 'chemistry'

I always feel it when they like me but when I stop and ask myself if I like them without them liking me first....well, I just don't know.

Also, 'chemistry' can be confused for hormonal needs.
That it to say, is it just my hormones talking or do I feel an electricity still even after sex.
Hormonal needs wont make bad pvssy into good pvssy. But you will make use of it.
 
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