"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"
You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.
And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.
Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.
The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.
Being unpredictable...
- Thread starter hck332
- Start date
"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"
She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.
Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.
The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.
Don't plan things too far in advance and be impulsive.
There are many of ideas that others can share with you but the only way to become unpredictable is through your own revelations.
ethnomethodologist
Master Don Juan
Lied to a girl
made a joke
teased a girl
chumped another guy
Yelled to scare a girl
There are more... If you want a concise breakdown of predictability do a few searches and make a good attention grabbing response to this thread. I can almost guaranteee you somebody will read it and say wow....
"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"
You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.
El MonoLoco
Master Don Juan
Difficult to foretell or foresee
Basically do anything that isn't normal/boring.
Go streaking
fly a kit made out of lead
act like a cartoon/lunatic
walk up to and kiss a girl w/o saying anything else
be nice then be an a**
damn have you lost your imagination or what?
:crackup:
woops I missed something
That would be predictable.......
Just do the opposite of whatever you think of first.
:rock:
DJ_in_making
Master Don Juan
Change any little thing up, don't make her say to her self "okay, now we're probably going to the movies again".....
Egoist
Master Don Juan
basically, don't be a one-sided dude. If you are a joker, have moments of depth. If you are a quiet guy, go crazy and have fun sometimes.
Do things people wouldn't expect you to do. Be spontaneous. Take her to have ice cream when it snows. Take a preppy white girl to a best friend chicken shack in the ghetto. Put on a tango and dance with her out of nowhere when you are just chilling at your house.
Its good for you as well. When you are too set in your own ways, you become stagnant as well. When you are constantly trying things in new ways, it makes you a better person as well.
"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."
Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.
Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?
You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.
Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.