"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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Being too smooth

Fash

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There is something which has been hampering my game the past few weeks...

I come across as too smooth.

This kinda hit home when a chick last night said:

"i'm sure you are very successful with women, but you are too smooth, and a woman who knows what she is doing will see it a mile away"

I still number-closed her and kissed her goodbye, but it got me thinking...

If a girl thinks I'm too smooth and am too good and efficient of making her attracted to me, her b!tch shield will just thicken. It will make my work harder.

There has been so many occasions where I have been caught out! They say things like "mmmm I cant trust you, you seem like too much of a player/smooth operator"

I have had women say "you remind me of Hitch!" and I even had this chick say to me "you're doing NLP on me! I can't believe it!"

My questions is.... does anyone else experience this? Of so, how did you overcome it?

Should I act AFC just so that I dont come across as too smooth????
 

"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"

She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.

Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.

The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.

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tosh

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I see you are in London. Are you sarging tonight? need a wingman!??
 

Tomatoes

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I dont think you can get away from it Fash. Just say things like "im confiedent about who i am thats all" or your a "People Person"

I am guessing to be fair mate as I can tell from your FR that you are very smooth and very good.

Dont act afc. Just try and work round it.

As if you dont get enough women anyways :p
 

Fash

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Originally posted by tosh
I see you are in London. Are you sarging tonight? need a wingman!??
I'm actually in New York this week. So I'll be sarging here tonight. Hopefully, I'll have a couple of good stuff to include in an FR 2moro.

:)
 

"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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Phat

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Dont change man lol.. ur doing fine.
 

Tha Realnezz

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Originally posted by Fash
There is something which has been hampering my game the past few weeks...

I come across as too smooth.

This kinda hit home when a chick last night said:

"i'm sure you are very successful with women, but you are too smooth, and a woman who knows what she is doing will see it a mile away"

I still number-closed her and kissed her goodbye, but it got me thinking...

If a girl thinks I'm too smooth and am too good and efficient of making her attracted to me, her b!tch shield will just thicken. It will make my work harder.

There has been so many occasions where I have been caught out! They say things like "mmmm I cant trust you, you seem like too much of a player/smooth operator"

I have had women say "you remind me of Hitch!" and I even had this chick say to me "you're doing NLP on me! I can't believe it!"

My questions is.... does anyone else experience this? Of so, how did you overcome it?

Should I act AFC just so that I dont come across as too smooth????

So what **** 'em.:down: They all say that "You're a Player!,You're a Player,man you gotta lot of girls"..****outta here.They still end up ****ing us ..so don't ease up.
 

reyalp

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i've been called a "natural flirt" more times than i can count.

i just say "only for you, hun" or something like that
 

ethnomethodologist

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LOL, she gave it to you negatively... and you think that's a good thing?

You had to have been too boring, you came off as a freaking robot dude.

I'd give you advice, but than I'd sound AFC.

Just do some ****y and try to make it funny, that's what almost everybody else is going to say.

Come-on KBJ's unite!
 

TedJustAdmitIt

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Fash...hop on over to Masf and take a look in the Advanced section at a thread by RazorJack titled "Perceived Image Vs. Projected Image"...it was a couple of weeks ago and real long but I seem to remember someone else asking a similar question and getting some good replies.

In fact I suggest anyone who wants to know anything about picking up women read ALL of RZJ's posts cos his stuff is spot on...simple,no B.S. and straight to the point...natural game.
 

“The 22 Psychological Triggers That Make Women Chase You… Starting Tonight”

Forget the cash, the cars, and the chiseled jawlines. Female desire operates on a completely different frequency. Primal. Subconscious. Triggers that bypass her logic and hit her on a gut level. Most guys are totally blind to them.

I know because I was one of them. The overthinking. The paralysis. The silent drive home kicking yourself for freezing up. Watching average guys walk away with the girl while you stood there stuck in your own head.

Then I decoded the psychology behind what actually makes women tick. 22 hard rules.  Subtle behavioral shifts that rewired my entire reality. The anxiety evaporated. Women started leaning in. Investing. Chasing.

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