"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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Being too smooth

Fash

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There is something which has been hampering my game the past few weeks...

I come across as too smooth.

This kinda hit home when a chick last night said:

"i'm sure you are very successful with women, but you are too smooth, and a woman who knows what she is doing will see it a mile away"

I still number-closed her and kissed her goodbye, but it got me thinking...

If a girl thinks I'm too smooth and am too good and efficient of making her attracted to me, her b!tch shield will just thicken. It will make my work harder.

There has been so many occasions where I have been caught out! They say things like "mmmm I cant trust you, you seem like too much of a player/smooth operator"

I have had women say "you remind me of Hitch!" and I even had this chick say to me "you're doing NLP on me! I can't believe it!"

My questions is.... does anyone else experience this? Of so, how did you overcome it?

Should I act AFC just so that I dont come across as too smooth????
 

"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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tosh

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I see you are in London. Are you sarging tonight? need a wingman!??
 

Tomatoes

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I dont think you can get away from it Fash. Just say things like "im confiedent about who i am thats all" or your a "People Person"

I am guessing to be fair mate as I can tell from your FR that you are very smooth and very good.

Dont act afc. Just try and work round it.

As if you dont get enough women anyways :p
 

Fash

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Originally posted by tosh
I see you are in London. Are you sarging tonight? need a wingman!??
I'm actually in New York this week. So I'll be sarging here tonight. Hopefully, I'll have a couple of good stuff to include in an FR 2moro.

:)
 

“The 22 Rules That Flip the Script With Women… And How You Can Use Them Tonight”

Most guys accidentally kill attraction before they even speak. They assume they need a bigger bank account, a better physique, or smoother lines. They miss the point.

Female desire operates on a specific set of psychological triggers.  Break them, and you're invisible. Follow them, and you become magnetic.

I learned this the hard way. Years of freezing up. Getting friend-zoned. Watching other guys walk away with the girl I wanted. Then I discovered a set of 22 simple rules that rewired my entire approach.

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Phat

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Dont change man lol.. ur doing fine.
 

Tha Realnezz

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Originally posted by Fash
There is something which has been hampering my game the past few weeks...

I come across as too smooth.

This kinda hit home when a chick last night said:

"i'm sure you are very successful with women, but you are too smooth, and a woman who knows what she is doing will see it a mile away"

I still number-closed her and kissed her goodbye, but it got me thinking...

If a girl thinks I'm too smooth and am too good and efficient of making her attracted to me, her b!tch shield will just thicken. It will make my work harder.

There has been so many occasions where I have been caught out! They say things like "mmmm I cant trust you, you seem like too much of a player/smooth operator"

I have had women say "you remind me of Hitch!" and I even had this chick say to me "you're doing NLP on me! I can't believe it!"

My questions is.... does anyone else experience this? Of so, how did you overcome it?

Should I act AFC just so that I dont come across as too smooth????

So what **** 'em.:down: They all say that "You're a Player!,You're a Player,man you gotta lot of girls"..****outta here.They still end up ****ing us ..so don't ease up.
 

reyalp

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i've been called a "natural flirt" more times than i can count.

i just say "only for you, hun" or something like that
 

ethnomethodologist

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LOL, she gave it to you negatively... and you think that's a good thing?

You had to have been too boring, you came off as a freaking robot dude.

I'd give you advice, but than I'd sound AFC.

Just do some ****y and try to make it funny, that's what almost everybody else is going to say.

Come-on KBJ's unite!
 

TedJustAdmitIt

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Fash...hop on over to Masf and take a look in the Advanced section at a thread by RazorJack titled "Perceived Image Vs. Projected Image"...it was a couple of weeks ago and real long but I seem to remember someone else asking a similar question and getting some good replies.

In fact I suggest anyone who wants to know anything about picking up women read ALL of RZJ's posts cos his stuff is spot on...simple,no B.S. and straight to the point...natural game.
 

"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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