"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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Being too flashy, Trying too hard?

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I notice when I go to clubs when I am dressed up in like black pants/blazer and a collared shirt I dont get too many responses from women

But when I wear jeans and a collared shirt just hanging, More women talk to me

Does dressing up too nice make women think you are "trying too hard" to impress them? or does dressing up make you look too old/boring/mature (im 28)?

Maybe a club isnt where I should be scouting, im really trying to attract the "classy" type of girl, not the jeans and halter types

It almost seems like its a waste of time to even get dressed up anymore, because it seems women like the "just rolled out of bed" look
 

"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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It could be that when you're wearing black pants/blazer and a collared shirt that you look too "player"?

And the jeans and a collared shirt is much more casual of course.
 
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On the flip side...

I "peacock" fashionably. It draws unbelieveable attention for ME. It is NOT for everyone. It will only help you open. The rest is up to you and your game.
 
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