"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."

Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.

Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?

You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.

Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.

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being too available?

conan2120

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Hi everyone,I have a question about a comment that keeps being brought to my attention.People keep telling me that I,m too nice and too available.I,m trying to figure out what that means and looking for ways or ideas to change that.Can you help?Thank you.:confused:
 

"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."

Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.

Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?

You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.

Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.

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Golden Arms

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what do you think it means ? being too availabe means you devote or are willing to devote too much of your time to one woman. The cause of that is usually not having other options (women) on your plate and/or just not having enough other things to keep you occupied

Have you checked out the DJ Bible yet ?
 

WaterTiger

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Much of your problem can be solved with one simple word...NO!

"Conan! Bring your truck over and help me move this weekend."
NO!

"Conan, these flowers are okay, but I really like those $25 dollar orchids. Buy me one!"
NO!

"Conan! Dude! I'm short on cash, pick up a case of beer for me!"
NO!

"Nice" guys let everyone walk all over them, let their girlfriends run their lives & never say a word about it. The instructions to being the captain of your own destiny is found in the DJ Bible.

You don't have to be an ass about it, but saying "NO" now and then will make people respect you a little more.
 

conan2120

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Thanks for the replies guys,without you or this forum,I,d probably keep making these same mistakes over and over again.
 

"She's Out of Your League"

You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.

Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.

She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.

Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.

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