PxDx
Don Juan
That's right folks! I took it too far..took her interest level from sky high to nil.
I guess...live & learn.
I guess...live & learn.
"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"
You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.
And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.
Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.
The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.
Being TOO aloof..yep it backfired!
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"She's Out of Your League"
You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.
Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.
She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.
Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.
Jeremymichael
Senior Don Juan
sorry to hear that. What I like about this site is the way we can all share our lifes experiences, be it good, bad indifferent.
I share your loss, the girl I quite like stood me up the other day for no reason apart from she had a hangover. She never called me, or texted me just didn't turn up. I never could see her being like that.
Still she will find me aloof like you soon enough. keep smiling!
I share your loss, the girl I quite like stood me up the other day for no reason apart from she had a hangover. She never called me, or texted me just didn't turn up. I never could see her being like that.
Still she will find me aloof like you soon enough. keep smiling!
Francisco d'Anconia
Master Don Juan
So what are you going to do differently?PxDx said:That's right folks! I took it too far..took her interest level from sky high to nil.
I guess...live & learn.
PxDx
Don Juan
Any recommendations?Francisco d'Anconia said:So what are you going to do differently?
There are a small percentage of women who get turned off by someone who's aloof. Just feel it out, and say something meaningfull to her and see what she responds with. Or call her up and tell her you went through some personal stuff with your job, family, etc, and weren't all there for her.
"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."
Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.
Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?
You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.
Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.
Yeah, it backfired on me too recently. What I try to do, because I know that I'm too laid-back and non-chalant in general, is go into situations thinking "what will I regret not doing?"
For example, I chill with some girl a couple of times and I don't really care for a relationship. Then I think "what will I think of this later, passing up this opportunity?" So instead of doing nothing, then next time we're walking through the park we end up attempting to tango and then I kiss her goodbye. Now, at the time I don't feel like I care about whether or not I make any moves, butttt... I know that I'll regret passing it up later. So I act on what I'll feel later.
I don't know if it applies to you, but I'm aloof in a way where I could care less at the time, but after something passes you by it hits you hard. So I try to always think of the long-term impacts even if they seem so far away at the time.
For example, I chill with some girl a couple of times and I don't really care for a relationship. Then I think "what will I think of this later, passing up this opportunity?" So instead of doing nothing, then next time we're walking through the park we end up attempting to tango and then I kiss her goodbye. Now, at the time I don't feel like I care about whether or not I make any moves, butttt... I know that I'll regret passing it up later. So I act on what I'll feel later.
I don't know if it applies to you, but I'm aloof in a way where I could care less at the time, but after something passes you by it hits you hard. So I try to always think of the long-term impacts even if they seem so far away at the time.
Interceptor
Master Don Juan
You're not QUALIFYING her, dude.
That's why you don't know how to calibrate.
If she's worth it, you will know, and ACT accordingly.
But if you don't even KNOW, and you misguidedly apply a technique, without understanding its usage, then you are neither here nor there, man.
Understand her Interest Level, and what degree of commitment to YOU she has.
Then determine her womanly NEEDS, and award them accordingly.
Comprende?
That's why you don't know how to calibrate.
If she's worth it, you will know, and ACT accordingly.
But if you don't even KNOW, and you misguidedly apply a technique, without understanding its usage, then you are neither here nor there, man.
Understand her Interest Level, and what degree of commitment to YOU she has.
Then determine her womanly NEEDS, and award them accordingly.
Comprende?
B4IFURU18?
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Well WTF did you do? Give some explanation before a bunch of us give idiotic advice, per usual...
Francisco d'Anconia
Master Don Juan
Be interesting instead of aloof.PxDx said:Any recommendations?
PxDx
Don Juan
Well...she basically confessed how much she was into me. And i guess i let it go to my head & i disappeared for a week. Ya know taking sh!t for granted!B4IFURU18? said:Well WTF did you do? Give some explanation before a bunch of us give idiotic advice, per usual...
To be honest i went on a week binge of drug use(pharmaceuticals) which i never do...but i did. I don't think thats something i could explain to her.
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"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"
She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.
You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.
She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.
The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.