PxDx
Don Juan
That's right folks! I took it too far..took her interest level from sky high to nil.
I guess...live & learn.
I guess...live & learn.
"You Can't Argue a Woman Into Liking You"
You made your case like a lawyer. Stable job. Good guy. Ready for something real. All true. All irrelevant.
She weighed your points, nodded along, felt nothing — then fell hard for some tattooed bartender with a motorcycle and a gambling problem.
Logic is where attraction goes to die. The "22 Rules" work a level deeper, on the subconscious switches that decide within minutes whether you register as a MAN or as part of the furniture.
Stop presenting evidence. Start flipping switches.
Being TOO aloof..yep it backfired!
- Thread starter PxDx
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"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."
Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.
Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?
You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.
Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.
Jeremymichael
Senior Don Juan
sorry to hear that. What I like about this site is the way we can all share our lifes experiences, be it good, bad indifferent.
I share your loss, the girl I quite like stood me up the other day for no reason apart from she had a hangover. She never called me, or texted me just didn't turn up. I never could see her being like that.
Still she will find me aloof like you soon enough. keep smiling!
I share your loss, the girl I quite like stood me up the other day for no reason apart from she had a hangover. She never called me, or texted me just didn't turn up. I never could see her being like that.
Still she will find me aloof like you soon enough. keep smiling!
Francisco d'Anconia
Master Don Juan
So what are you going to do differently?PxDx said:That's right folks! I took it too far..took her interest level from sky high to nil.
I guess...live & learn.
PxDx
Don Juan
Any recommendations?Francisco d'Anconia said:So what are you going to do differently?
There are a small percentage of women who get turned off by someone who's aloof. Just feel it out, and say something meaningfull to her and see what she responds with. Or call her up and tell her you went through some personal stuff with your job, family, etc, and weren't all there for her.
"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"
Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."
You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.
She's been waiting forty minutes.
Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.
Yeah, it backfired on me too recently. What I try to do, because I know that I'm too laid-back and non-chalant in general, is go into situations thinking "what will I regret not doing?"
For example, I chill with some girl a couple of times and I don't really care for a relationship. Then I think "what will I think of this later, passing up this opportunity?" So instead of doing nothing, then next time we're walking through the park we end up attempting to tango and then I kiss her goodbye. Now, at the time I don't feel like I care about whether or not I make any moves, butttt... I know that I'll regret passing it up later. So I act on what I'll feel later.
I don't know if it applies to you, but I'm aloof in a way where I could care less at the time, but after something passes you by it hits you hard. So I try to always think of the long-term impacts even if they seem so far away at the time.
For example, I chill with some girl a couple of times and I don't really care for a relationship. Then I think "what will I think of this later, passing up this opportunity?" So instead of doing nothing, then next time we're walking through the park we end up attempting to tango and then I kiss her goodbye. Now, at the time I don't feel like I care about whether or not I make any moves, butttt... I know that I'll regret passing it up later. So I act on what I'll feel later.
I don't know if it applies to you, but I'm aloof in a way where I could care less at the time, but after something passes you by it hits you hard. So I try to always think of the long-term impacts even if they seem so far away at the time.
Interceptor
Master Don Juan
You're not QUALIFYING her, dude.
That's why you don't know how to calibrate.
If she's worth it, you will know, and ACT accordingly.
But if you don't even KNOW, and you misguidedly apply a technique, without understanding its usage, then you are neither here nor there, man.
Understand her Interest Level, and what degree of commitment to YOU she has.
Then determine her womanly NEEDS, and award them accordingly.
Comprende?
That's why you don't know how to calibrate.
If she's worth it, you will know, and ACT accordingly.
But if you don't even KNOW, and you misguidedly apply a technique, without understanding its usage, then you are neither here nor there, man.
Understand her Interest Level, and what degree of commitment to YOU she has.
Then determine her womanly NEEDS, and award them accordingly.
Comprende?
B4IFURU18?
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Well WTF did you do? Give some explanation before a bunch of us give idiotic advice, per usual...
Francisco d'Anconia
Master Don Juan
Be interesting instead of aloof.PxDx said:Any recommendations?
PxDx
Don Juan
Well...she basically confessed how much she was into me. And i guess i let it go to my head & i disappeared for a week. Ya know taking sh!t for granted!B4IFURU18? said:Well WTF did you do? Give some explanation before a bunch of us give idiotic advice, per usual...
To be honest i went on a week binge of drug use(pharmaceuticals) which i never do...but i did. I don't think thats something i could explain to her.
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"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"
She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.
You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.
She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.
The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.