PxDx
Don Juan
That's right folks! I took it too far..took her interest level from sky high to nil.
I guess...live & learn.
I guess...live & learn.
"I just moved here from Florida."
That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?
She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."
She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.
I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.
Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.
Being TOO aloof..yep it backfired!
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“The 22 Rules That Flip the Script With Women… And How You Can Use Them Tonight”
Most guys accidentally kill attraction before they even speak. They assume they need a bigger bank account, a better physique, or smoother lines. They miss the point.
Female desire operates on a specific set of psychological triggers. Break them, and you're invisible. Follow them, and you become magnetic.
I learned this the hard way. Years of freezing up. Getting friend-zoned. Watching other guys walk away with the girl I wanted. Then I discovered a set of 22 simple rules that rewired my entire approach.
Jeremymichael
Senior Don Juan
sorry to hear that. What I like about this site is the way we can all share our lifes experiences, be it good, bad indifferent.
I share your loss, the girl I quite like stood me up the other day for no reason apart from she had a hangover. She never called me, or texted me just didn't turn up. I never could see her being like that.
Still she will find me aloof like you soon enough. keep smiling!
I share your loss, the girl I quite like stood me up the other day for no reason apart from she had a hangover. She never called me, or texted me just didn't turn up. I never could see her being like that.
Still she will find me aloof like you soon enough. keep smiling!
Francisco d'Anconia
Master Don Juan
So what are you going to do differently?PxDx said:That's right folks! I took it too far..took her interest level from sky high to nil.
I guess...live & learn.
PxDx
Don Juan
Any recommendations?Francisco d'Anconia said:So what are you going to do differently?
There are a small percentage of women who get turned off by someone who's aloof. Just feel it out, and say something meaningfull to her and see what she responds with. Or call her up and tell her you went through some personal stuff with your job, family, etc, and weren't all there for her.
"You Can't Argue a Woman Into Liking You"
You made your case like a lawyer. Stable job. Good guy. Ready for something real. All true. All irrelevant.
She weighed your points, nodded along, felt nothing — then fell hard for some tattooed bartender with a motorcycle and a gambling problem.
Logic is where attraction goes to die. The "22 Rules" work a level deeper, on the subconscious switches that decide within minutes whether you register as a MAN or as part of the furniture.
Stop presenting evidence. Start flipping switches.
Yeah, it backfired on me too recently. What I try to do, because I know that I'm too laid-back and non-chalant in general, is go into situations thinking "what will I regret not doing?"
For example, I chill with some girl a couple of times and I don't really care for a relationship. Then I think "what will I think of this later, passing up this opportunity?" So instead of doing nothing, then next time we're walking through the park we end up attempting to tango and then I kiss her goodbye. Now, at the time I don't feel like I care about whether or not I make any moves, butttt... I know that I'll regret passing it up later. So I act on what I'll feel later.
I don't know if it applies to you, but I'm aloof in a way where I could care less at the time, but after something passes you by it hits you hard. So I try to always think of the long-term impacts even if they seem so far away at the time.
For example, I chill with some girl a couple of times and I don't really care for a relationship. Then I think "what will I think of this later, passing up this opportunity?" So instead of doing nothing, then next time we're walking through the park we end up attempting to tango and then I kiss her goodbye. Now, at the time I don't feel like I care about whether or not I make any moves, butttt... I know that I'll regret passing it up later. So I act on what I'll feel later.
I don't know if it applies to you, but I'm aloof in a way where I could care less at the time, but after something passes you by it hits you hard. So I try to always think of the long-term impacts even if they seem so far away at the time.
Interceptor
Master Don Juan
You're not QUALIFYING her, dude.
That's why you don't know how to calibrate.
If she's worth it, you will know, and ACT accordingly.
But if you don't even KNOW, and you misguidedly apply a technique, without understanding its usage, then you are neither here nor there, man.
Understand her Interest Level, and what degree of commitment to YOU she has.
Then determine her womanly NEEDS, and award them accordingly.
Comprende?
That's why you don't know how to calibrate.
If she's worth it, you will know, and ACT accordingly.
But if you don't even KNOW, and you misguidedly apply a technique, without understanding its usage, then you are neither here nor there, man.
Understand her Interest Level, and what degree of commitment to YOU she has.
Then determine her womanly NEEDS, and award them accordingly.
Comprende?
B4IFURU18?
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Well WTF did you do? Give some explanation before a bunch of us give idiotic advice, per usual...
Francisco d'Anconia
Master Don Juan
Be interesting instead of aloof.PxDx said:Any recommendations?
PxDx
Don Juan
Well...she basically confessed how much she was into me. And i guess i let it go to my head & i disappeared for a week. Ya know taking sh!t for granted!B4IFURU18? said:Well WTF did you do? Give some explanation before a bunch of us give idiotic advice, per usual...
To be honest i went on a week binge of drug use(pharmaceuticals) which i never do...but i did. I don't think thats something i could explain to her.
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"I'm Not Looking for Anything Serious Right Now"
When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.
Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.
Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.
The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.