Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.
She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.
Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.
So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.
The words come later. The impression comes first.
Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.
She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.
Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.
So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.
The words come later. The impression comes first.
When you say everyone likes you, is that a general statement? I could see it if most people like you. However, there is always going to be jealous people. Also, what if you are just being human, and accidentally get in a car accident.SandHawk said:How you judge whether or not you're popular? Simple: Everyone likes you, and everyone wants to hang out with you. Popular people are just the people that almost everyone wants to be seen with, hang out with, do stuff with.
How often you get laid could be a factor, because popular people get laid more often than unpopular people for obvious reasons. Getting laid with 1 girl a few times is not being popular btw. It just means you got lucky.
You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.
And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.
Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.
The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.
Yeah, well your life in America is over as a male after college. No more fat girls to bang. You have to marry one of them. One of them who has banged a lot of guys in her past. They call it the "American Dream". At least you Brits have Riga, Tallin, and Prague. Not that you guys ever get anything outside of a hooker and cheap beer in those places. But, you can still dream that you are an old sleazy French dude.kingsam said:cross boss ... how old are you?
you will get to a certain point in life, after school, college, where you dont really give a crap about how polular you are or what others think of you socialy ... as you will be living the life YOU want to live...not trying to fit in
for most people being polular, cool and trying to fit in dont really mean jack, i wont acheive anything for you, wow lots of people "like you", but without game it wont result in getting laid/meeting women, it wont make you richer, and if you just dissapeared most people would easily move on...
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dont confsce this with being a good social connector ... i persoanlly think most peoples version of being popuar is "fitting in"...and (i think) social connecting is knowing people who you feel add value to your life and have similar intersts, not just coz their "cool" - i think theres a sublte difference