She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.
Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.
The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.
Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.
You've been "getting ready" for two years.
She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.
Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.
When you say everyone likes you, is that a general statement? I could see it if most people like you. However, there is always going to be jealous people. Also, what if you are just being human, and accidentally get in a car accident.SandHawk said:How you judge whether or not you're popular? Simple: Everyone likes you, and everyone wants to hang out with you. Popular people are just the people that almost everyone wants to be seen with, hang out with, do stuff with.
How often you get laid could be a factor, because popular people get laid more often than unpopular people for obvious reasons. Getting laid with 1 girl a few times is not being popular btw. It just means you got lucky.
You made your case like a lawyer. Stable job. Good guy. Ready for something real. All true. All irrelevant.
She weighed your points, nodded along, felt nothing — then fell hard for some tattooed bartender with a motorcycle and a gambling problem.
Logic is where attraction goes to die. The "22 Rules" work a level deeper, on the subconscious switches that decide within minutes whether you register as a MAN or as part of the furniture.
Stop presenting evidence. Start flipping switches.
Yeah, well your life in America is over as a male after college. No more fat girls to bang. You have to marry one of them. One of them who has banged a lot of guys in her past. They call it the "American Dream". At least you Brits have Riga, Tallin, and Prague. Not that you guys ever get anything outside of a hooker and cheap beer in those places. But, you can still dream that you are an old sleazy French dude.kingsam said:cross boss ... how old are you?
you will get to a certain point in life, after school, college, where you dont really give a crap about how polular you are or what others think of you socialy ... as you will be living the life YOU want to live...not trying to fit in
for most people being polular, cool and trying to fit in dont really mean jack, i wont acheive anything for you, wow lots of people "like you", but without game it wont result in getting laid/meeting women, it wont make you richer, and if you just dissapeared most people would easily move on...
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dont confsce this with being a good social connector ... i persoanlly think most peoples version of being popuar is "fitting in"...and (i think) social connecting is knowing people who you feel add value to your life and have similar intersts, not just coz their "cool" - i think theres a sublte difference