"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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Being picky = good or bad?

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Don Juan
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You'd think as a 27 year old virgin, I'd have no standards whatsoever. Interestingly enough the worse I do with girls, the pickier I seem to get.

There's the usual spiel of "There's always someone better out there". I think I literally use that as my coping mechanism if I fail with a girl - to look for someone truly better than her.

I also end up benchmarking future prospects against past (failed) prospects. This in turn leads me to ruling out girls I might otherwise have considered going for.
 

"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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