"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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Being picky = good or bad?

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Don Juan
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You'd think as a 27 year old virgin, I'd have no standards whatsoever. Interestingly enough the worse I do with girls, the pickier I seem to get.

There's the usual spiel of "There's always someone better out there". I think I literally use that as my coping mechanism if I fail with a girl - to look for someone truly better than her.

I also end up benchmarking future prospects against past (failed) prospects. This in turn leads me to ruling out girls I might otherwise have considered going for.
 

"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"

I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.

The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.

Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.

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