"The Kiss of Death Mistake"

You replay the conversation at 2 a.m. She texted back fast yesterday. Today, nothing. Was that smile friendly or flirty? What did the shoulder touch mean?

Every hour you spend decoding her signals drains your confidence and hands her the controls. Women can sense that insecurity from across the room — and it repels them.

One of the "22 Rules" kills the obsession on the spot: assume she likes you, and act accordingly. Sounds too simple. Works anyway.

Her interest tends to rise to meet your expectations. Psychologists call it a self-fulfilling prophecy.

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Being Nice=less Women

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Doing (a few) nice things is great(opening doors, pulling out a chair,saying God bless you,etc) being nice in every way becomes nauseous. How many times have we heard the old cliche' NICE GUYS FINISH LAST......hey dude.......the reason they say it all the time, it's because it is often true!. Being nice all the time loosely translates to BORING/PREDICTABLE.

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Nice guys are rarely interesting and compensate for this trait by paying for or trying to impress the ladies. Nice guys are cowards and almost never initiate the first move, say something improper, do something that does not sit well with others or themselves. Nice guys are emotional when it comes to dating, sex, relationships, first dates, breaking up. Ever hear girls say the words "he was nice, it was nice,we had a nice time, it was nice to meet you, etc" TRANSLATION-there was very little sparks, I did not feel any sexual attraction, I got a free drink/meal, I was so fricken bored).

A woman's definition of nice contains a ton of other traits which evoke attraction, and has the word nice tacked on the end. So you can either change your frame of what nice means or you can stop being so nice. Either way I am willing to bet you will start to experience a creative change in your encounters with the ladies.

My advice......don't always be so nice!

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"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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ive actually woken up and said to myself im going to be nice for the whole day...BUT my personality just aint so...C n F and teasing is engraved in my mentality so i never get past the first few interactions without coming off as a "jerk"
 
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COD said:
Doing (a few) nice things is great(opening doors, pulling out a chair,saying God bless you,etc)
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I don't think having manners has been given a bad rap over the years for a myriad or reasons including being labeled a nice guy and fear of retaliation from feminazis.
 
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being warm and nice is perfectly fine.... so long as you can be equally cold and distant.

what that means is, personality lies in the conflict of emotions. none of us are happy and giddy 100% of the time, yet when we walk up to a woman, smiling for no reason, laughing at our own bad jokes, what do we look like? one-dimensional bobbleheads.

But show a woman warmth when she tells a funny joke, or show assertiveness when you ask her a question... now you're a confident human being, and she's attracted.
 

"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"

Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."

You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.

She's been waiting forty minutes.

Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.

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COD said:
Doing (a few) nice things is great(opening doors, pulling out a chair,saying God bless you,etc) being nice in every way becomes nauseous. How many times have we heard the old cliche' NICE GUYS FINISH LAST......hey dude.......the reason they say it all the time, it's because it is often true!. Being nice all the time loosely translates to BORING/PREDICTABLE.

Non
Interesting
Coward
Emotonal

Nice guys are rarely interesting and compensate for this trait by paying for or trying to impress the ladies. Nice guys are cowards and almost never initiate the first move, say something improper, do something that does not sit well with others or themselves. Nice guys are emotional when it comes to dating, sex, relationships, first dates, breaking up. Ever hear girls say the words "he was nice, it was nice,we had a nice time, it was nice to meet you, etc" TRANSLATION-there was very little sparks, I did not feel any sexual attraction, I got a free drink/meal, I was so fricken bored).

A woman's definition of nice contains a ton of other traits which evoke attraction, and has the word nice tacked on the end. So you can either change your frame of what nice means or you can stop being so nice. Either way I am willing to bet you will start to experience a creative change in your encounters with the ladies.

My advice......don't always be so nice!

M
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Yea but you can take it the other way, which is just constantly being a pr.ick, which is almost as bad. What I do, is tease the girl quite a lot in the first few minutes of meeting her....then I'll drop a genuine compliment after I have some rapport...don't think that you can't tell a girl she's beautiful oo whatever...said with the right frame, this sorta compliment will be money.

The correct mindset for complimenting a girl, imo isthe same way that you'd compliment a friend....you're saying it just for the sake of saying it, not to try to impress or suck up to them....i.e. its a GENUINE compliment.

The key is not to be a 'nice guy'....be a tease/flirt/challenge and occasionally say a nice thing or two.
 
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