Doing (a few) nice things is great(opening doors, pulling out a chair,saying God bless you,etc) being nice in every way becomes nauseous. How many times have we heard the old cliche' NICE GUYS FINISH LAST......hey dude.......the reason they say it all the time, it's because it is often true!. Being nice all the time loosely translates to BORING/PREDICTABLE.
Non
Interesting
Coward
Emotonal
Nice guys are rarely interesting and compensate for this trait by paying for or trying to impress the ladies. Nice guys are cowards and almost never initiate the first move, say something improper, do something that does not sit well with others or themselves. Nice guys are emotional when it comes to dating, sex, relationships, first dates, breaking up. Ever hear girls say the words "he was nice, it was nice,we had a nice time, it was nice to meet you, etc" TRANSLATION-there was very little sparks, I did not feel any sexual attraction, I got a free drink/meal, I was so fricken bored).
A woman's definition of nice contains a ton of other traits which evoke attraction, and has the word nice tacked on the end. So you can either change your frame of what nice means or you can stop being so nice. Either way I am willing to bet you will start to experience a creative change in your encounters with the ladies.
My advice......don't always be so nice!
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Non
Interesting
Coward
Emotonal
Nice guys are rarely interesting and compensate for this trait by paying for or trying to impress the ladies. Nice guys are cowards and almost never initiate the first move, say something improper, do something that does not sit well with others or themselves. Nice guys are emotional when it comes to dating, sex, relationships, first dates, breaking up. Ever hear girls say the words "he was nice, it was nice,we had a nice time, it was nice to meet you, etc" TRANSLATION-there was very little sparks, I did not feel any sexual attraction, I got a free drink/meal, I was so fricken bored).
A woman's definition of nice contains a ton of other traits which evoke attraction, and has the word nice tacked on the end. So you can either change your frame of what nice means or you can stop being so nice. Either way I am willing to bet you will start to experience a creative change in your encounters with the ladies.
My advice......don't always be so nice!
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