"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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Being Nice=less Women

COD

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Doing (a few) nice things is great(opening doors, pulling out a chair,saying God bless you,etc) being nice in every way becomes nauseous. How many times have we heard the old cliche' NICE GUYS FINISH LAST......hey dude.......the reason they say it all the time, it's because it is often true!. Being nice all the time loosely translates to BORING/PREDICTABLE.

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Nice guys are rarely interesting and compensate for this trait by paying for or trying to impress the ladies. Nice guys are cowards and almost never initiate the first move, say something improper, do something that does not sit well with others or themselves. Nice guys are emotional when it comes to dating, sex, relationships, first dates, breaking up. Ever hear girls say the words "he was nice, it was nice,we had a nice time, it was nice to meet you, etc" TRANSLATION-there was very little sparks, I did not feel any sexual attraction, I got a free drink/meal, I was so fricken bored).

A woman's definition of nice contains a ton of other traits which evoke attraction, and has the word nice tacked on the end. So you can either change your frame of what nice means or you can stop being so nice. Either way I am willing to bet you will start to experience a creative change in your encounters with the ladies.

My advice......don't always be so nice!

M
 

"She's Out of Your League"

You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.

Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.

She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.

Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.

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ive actually woken up and said to myself im going to be nice for the whole day...BUT my personality just aint so...C n F and teasing is engraved in my mentality so i never get past the first few interactions without coming off as a "jerk"
 

Francisco d'Anconia

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COD said:
Doing (a few) nice things is great(opening doors, pulling out a chair,saying God bless you,etc)
I don't think having manners has been given a bad rap over the years for a myriad or reasons including being labeled a nice guy and fear of retaliation from feminazis.
 

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being warm and nice is perfectly fine.... so long as you can be equally cold and distant.

what that means is, personality lies in the conflict of emotions. none of us are happy and giddy 100% of the time, yet when we walk up to a woman, smiling for no reason, laughing at our own bad jokes, what do we look like? one-dimensional bobbleheads.

But show a woman warmth when she tells a funny joke, or show assertiveness when you ask her a question... now you're a confident human being, and she's attracted.
 

"You Can't Argue a Woman Into Liking You"

You made your case like a lawyer. Stable job. Good guy. Ready for something real. All true. All irrelevant.

She weighed your points, nodded along, felt nothing — then fell hard for some tattooed bartender with a motorcycle and a gambling problem.

Logic is where attraction goes to die. The "22 Rules" work a level deeper, on the subconscious switches that decide within minutes whether you register as a MAN or as part of the furniture.

Stop presenting evidence. Start flipping switches.

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COD said:
Doing (a few) nice things is great(opening doors, pulling out a chair,saying God bless you,etc) being nice in every way becomes nauseous. How many times have we heard the old cliche' NICE GUYS FINISH LAST......hey dude.......the reason they say it all the time, it's because it is often true!. Being nice all the time loosely translates to BORING/PREDICTABLE.

Non
Interesting
Coward
Emotonal

Nice guys are rarely interesting and compensate for this trait by paying for or trying to impress the ladies. Nice guys are cowards and almost never initiate the first move, say something improper, do something that does not sit well with others or themselves. Nice guys are emotional when it comes to dating, sex, relationships, first dates, breaking up. Ever hear girls say the words "he was nice, it was nice,we had a nice time, it was nice to meet you, etc" TRANSLATION-there was very little sparks, I did not feel any sexual attraction, I got a free drink/meal, I was so fricken bored).

A woman's definition of nice contains a ton of other traits which evoke attraction, and has the word nice tacked on the end. So you can either change your frame of what nice means or you can stop being so nice. Either way I am willing to bet you will start to experience a creative change in your encounters with the ladies.

My advice......don't always be so nice!

M
Yea but you can take it the other way, which is just constantly being a pr.ick, which is almost as bad. What I do, is tease the girl quite a lot in the first few minutes of meeting her....then I'll drop a genuine compliment after I have some rapport...don't think that you can't tell a girl she's beautiful oo whatever...said with the right frame, this sorta compliment will be money.

The correct mindset for complimenting a girl, imo isthe same way that you'd compliment a friend....you're saying it just for the sake of saying it, not to try to impress or suck up to them....i.e. its a GENUINE compliment.

The key is not to be a 'nice guy'....be a tease/flirt/challenge and occasionally say a nice thing or two.
 
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