"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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Being Nice=less Women

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Doing (a few) nice things is great(opening doors, pulling out a chair,saying God bless you,etc) being nice in every way becomes nauseous. How many times have we heard the old cliche' NICE GUYS FINISH LAST......hey dude.......the reason they say it all the time, it's because it is often true!. Being nice all the time loosely translates to BORING/PREDICTABLE.

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Nice guys are rarely interesting and compensate for this trait by paying for or trying to impress the ladies. Nice guys are cowards and almost never initiate the first move, say something improper, do something that does not sit well with others or themselves. Nice guys are emotional when it comes to dating, sex, relationships, first dates, breaking up. Ever hear girls say the words "he was nice, it was nice,we had a nice time, it was nice to meet you, etc" TRANSLATION-there was very little sparks, I did not feel any sexual attraction, I got a free drink/meal, I was so fricken bored).

A woman's definition of nice contains a ton of other traits which evoke attraction, and has the word nice tacked on the end. So you can either change your frame of what nice means or you can stop being so nice. Either way I am willing to bet you will start to experience a creative change in your encounters with the ladies.

My advice......don't always be so nice!

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"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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ive actually woken up and said to myself im going to be nice for the whole day...BUT my personality just aint so...C n F and teasing is engraved in my mentality so i never get past the first few interactions without coming off as a "jerk"
 
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COD said:
Doing (a few) nice things is great(opening doors, pulling out a chair,saying God bless you,etc)
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I don't think having manners has been given a bad rap over the years for a myriad or reasons including being labeled a nice guy and fear of retaliation from feminazis.
 
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being warm and nice is perfectly fine.... so long as you can be equally cold and distant.

what that means is, personality lies in the conflict of emotions. none of us are happy and giddy 100% of the time, yet when we walk up to a woman, smiling for no reason, laughing at our own bad jokes, what do we look like? one-dimensional bobbleheads.

But show a woman warmth when she tells a funny joke, or show assertiveness when you ask her a question... now you're a confident human being, and she's attracted.
 

"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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COD said:
Doing (a few) nice things is great(opening doors, pulling out a chair,saying God bless you,etc) being nice in every way becomes nauseous. How many times have we heard the old cliche' NICE GUYS FINISH LAST......hey dude.......the reason they say it all the time, it's because it is often true!. Being nice all the time loosely translates to BORING/PREDICTABLE.

Non
Interesting
Coward
Emotonal

Nice guys are rarely interesting and compensate for this trait by paying for or trying to impress the ladies. Nice guys are cowards and almost never initiate the first move, say something improper, do something that does not sit well with others or themselves. Nice guys are emotional when it comes to dating, sex, relationships, first dates, breaking up. Ever hear girls say the words "he was nice, it was nice,we had a nice time, it was nice to meet you, etc" TRANSLATION-there was very little sparks, I did not feel any sexual attraction, I got a free drink/meal, I was so fricken bored).

A woman's definition of nice contains a ton of other traits which evoke attraction, and has the word nice tacked on the end. So you can either change your frame of what nice means or you can stop being so nice. Either way I am willing to bet you will start to experience a creative change in your encounters with the ladies.

My advice......don't always be so nice!

M
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Yea but you can take it the other way, which is just constantly being a pr.ick, which is almost as bad. What I do, is tease the girl quite a lot in the first few minutes of meeting her....then I'll drop a genuine compliment after I have some rapport...don't think that you can't tell a girl she's beautiful oo whatever...said with the right frame, this sorta compliment will be money.

The correct mindset for complimenting a girl, imo isthe same way that you'd compliment a friend....you're saying it just for the sake of saying it, not to try to impress or suck up to them....i.e. its a GENUINE compliment.

The key is not to be a 'nice guy'....be a tease/flirt/challenge and occasionally say a nice thing or two.
 
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