"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"

Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."

You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.

She's been waiting forty minutes.

Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.

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Being more assertive at work

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Many years ago when I stumbled upon this forum, it changed my dating life and how I interact with people in general drastically. Massive improvement that yielded tangible results.
However, it never really transpired to the work-space, where my upbringing of “respecting your seniors” have stuck a bit too deep. Am by far the most appreciated worker and my bonuses are thereafter, but recently I’ve also been dumped a lot of shirk on my as a result of my “never say no attitude”.

I am in desperate need of a change to my work-place mentality and was hoping something had gone through a similar development and could share with me what really worked for them, whether that be tips / tricks / books / articles.

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"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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This has happened to me alot over the years.

saying no requires practice and its ok to start doing it even when you have the bandwidth for things. Its ok to protect your schedule
 
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Hard to do for some, but its really as simple as saying no more often. They'll find someone else to do it. Not a big deal. Just be one of the best at what you do.

Saying no was never hard for me, especially during my 20 years in corporate America. I still got good pay raises, and they respected me for my knowledge and work ethic. I was still offered promotions, most I turned down.

People will continue to push your boundaries(many will abuse them), until you stand firm. Its up to you. Stop worrying about what they think. Don't be a "yes" man.
 
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