"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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Being more assertive at work

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Many years ago when I stumbled upon this forum, it changed my dating life and how I interact with people in general drastically. Massive improvement that yielded tangible results.
However, it never really transpired to the work-space, where my upbringing of “respecting your seniors” have stuck a bit too deep. Am by far the most appreciated worker and my bonuses are thereafter, but recently I’ve also been dumped a lot of shirk on my as a result of my “never say no attitude”.

I am in desperate need of a change to my work-place mentality and was hoping something had gone through a similar development and could share with me what really worked for them, whether that be tips / tricks / books / articles.

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"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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This has happened to me alot over the years.

saying no requires practice and its ok to start doing it even when you have the bandwidth for things. Its ok to protect your schedule
 
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Hard to do for some, but its really as simple as saying no more often. They'll find someone else to do it. Not a big deal. Just be one of the best at what you do.

Saying no was never hard for me, especially during my 20 years in corporate America. I still got good pay raises, and they respected me for my knowledge and work ethic. I was still offered promotions, most I turned down.

People will continue to push your boundaries(many will abuse them), until you stand firm. Its up to you. Stop worrying about what they think. Don't be a "yes" man.
 
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